Asking out a colleague

LegacyUser

I have a workmate who I've developed a bit of a crush on. We don't work together in any capacity other than working for the same company. We seem to get on pretty well together and have a laugh. So I was wondering if anyone had any advice on taking the leap and asking her out. Generally, a bunch of us go out for drinks on a Friday, and sometimes she comes along, but I don't really want to do it when there are other colleagues around and I've had a drink or two. We all know how that looks when you ask someone out in a pub! So does anyone have any experience asking out a colleague?

Colonel_McCoy

I think the best option is catch her on her own on one of the Fridays nights and ask her out. Maybe ask her when she goes to the bar/smoking room (if she smokes) or walk her to a taxi at the end of the night and ask then.

kittenkiller

Colonel_McCoy wrote: »

I think the best option is catch her on her own on one of the Fridays nights and ask her out. Maybe ask her when she goes to the bar/smoking room (if she smokes) or walk her to a taxi at the end of the night and ask then.

+1

It's a great thing that you already go our socially.
Play it cool, be a gent and take a leap.

Fair play to you!

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies folks. Yeah, I guess I'll wait til the after work social gathering and pick my moment then. I just don't want to make her feel uncomfortable and come off a bit letcherous! Guess I'll deal with that if and when that happens!

kjl

Remeber confidence is the key, don't psych your self up, just do it

LegacyUser

I met my OH at work, what he did was offer to do me a favour, so I accepted then he said I owe him and should take him for a drink to thank him. He did it in a jokey way I think in case I said no but I accepted!

Maybe go down that route...

J.S. Pill

ANewGuy wrote: »

I have a workmate who I've developed a bit of a crush on. We don't work together in any capacity other than working for the same company. We seem to get on pretty well together and have a laugh. So I was wondering if anyone had any advice on taking the leap and asking her out. Generally, a bunch of us go out for drinks on a Friday, and sometimes she comes along, but I don't really want to do it when there are other colleagues around and I've had a drink or two. We all know how that looks when you ask someone out in a pub! So does anyone have any experience asking out a colleague?

Count yourself lucky. I have a crush on a girl who sits about 2 feet away from me. The awkward consequences of a failed advance don't even bear thinking about :eek:

Soundman

No advice on the asking out per se but just a thought...

I know you say that you only work for the same company and not in the same office, etc..

You might want to check the Company policy on inter-company relationships (or whatever it is called) all the same. Might save trouble in the long term?

LegacyUser

Soundman wrote: »

No advice on the asking out per se but just a thought...

I know you say that you only work for the same company and not in the same office, etc..

You might want to check the Company policy on inter-company relationships (or whatever it is called) all the same. Might save trouble in the long term?

This is a good point. But there are 2 other couples working in the company, so that's not an issue at the moment. Haven't gotten up the guts to do it yet, but I will. Just need to pick the right moment.

Soundman

ANewGuy wrote: »

This is a good point. But there are 2 other couples working in the company, so that's not an issue at the moment. Haven't gotten up the guts to do it yet, but I will. Just need to pick the right moment.

Ah grand, though were they romances developed after meeting in the workplace or were they already in relationships before getting their jobs?

In light of this information:

Double check company policy anyway and then just ask her out for a drink after work or if she'd like to grab a bite to eat with you some day at work and take it from there. Just the two of you. Worst she can say is no, and worst case scenario she does, it may be a little awkward but things will be fine after a short period. You don't get if you don't ask.

LegacyUser

Well, I'm gonna go for it. Problem is, it's pretty hard to get a moment with the girl, away from the prying eyes and ears of other coworkers. The only time I can get her alone is first thing in the morning, and we all feel no way near human at 9am. So should I just bite the bullet and ask her then and there, or wait til a moment opens up? I just want it to look like I'm making an effort with her, and not just doing something on a whim.

Soundman

Do it as soon as you get a chance. If you feel like waiting until a more suitable moment arises then you could be waiting some time. Procrastination will just end up making the nerves kick in more and make you procrastinate longer.

snowy2008

why dont you email her and see whats shes doing for lunch?? let us know how you get on!!!!!