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Why am I still interested?

  • 14-09-2009 11:02am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Almost two years ago I got talking to one of my friends friend in a nightclub, ended up walking her home and giving her my jacket but nothing ever happened. Got talking to her again a week later but only got talking to her briefly then didn't see her for a few months and lost interest but then ended up talking to her again at the end of the college year but yet again nothing ever happened. I found out over the summer that she was going to be going on Erasmus for the next year but she came home a few times during that time and I got talking to her twice and shortly after I added her on facebook with the intention of talking to her over that but never did. She then started dating a guy over there, she came home at the start of last month and for all I know they are still going out.

    I am back in college this week and I know I am going to see her again but I cant stop thinking about her and in fact I really haven't stopped thinking about her for the last year.

    But what I cant understand is why I still think about her? like I dont really know her, she might still be seeing that guy, she smokes and drinks a lot which I dont (like I do drink but never really get intoxicated) and it has been almost two years since I first met her and I have truly missed my chance.

    During the last two academic college years I really didn't think that much about her as there was plenty more fish in the sea per se but once summer came around my interest came back. I also cant bring myself to go on her profile for some odd reason.

    Like I do have problems with showing girls that I am interested, like I will go on the defensive or ignore them. A great example of this was last year I was on a night out, it was a quite enough night so you could get talking to people easily and this was this good looking girl smiling at me from the dance floor, she end up coming over, sits right beside where I am but I got scared of something actually happening and end up going over and talking to a guy I don't even like.


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  • #2
    sachamama
    Closed Accounts Posts: 146 ✭✭sachamama


    im not sure what you are asking here, OP. Are you wanting to know why you are still thinking about this girl, who seems a pretty safe bet as long as you dont know what she is doing (not looking up her facebook profile) or are not distracted by other girls?

    or are you wondering if you are shy and if you are, what can you do about it?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Looks like from your post that it won't work. Did you get mixed signals?

    If you think she likes you, ask her out. If she doesn't like you you'll know. Be fun, playful and non committal and you'll find out if she's interested.

    If she ain't interested, forget about her, drop her from the pedastal and wait for someone to come along that you can invest some time in.


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