Met guy on the Internet - need advice

Spainy1

I have been dating a guy i met on the internet for a couple of months. We get on great and we have met about 3 times and really fab time together. He came down all the way from belfast to galway one night to go to a gig with me with heaps of traffic a head of him but he made it. That night however i asked to come to the evening of my friends wedding he quickly said yes:) Then after a hour he just comes out with i think the world of you and am very fond of you but i dont think i could get hurt again!! He is out of a realtionship with ex nearly 10 months so he got very hurt as she cheated.

He came down to the wedding he met my friends and they all liked him i was delighted. I havent met him since:( I know he was going on hols with the lads and he had to save up he was still in contact but not as much!

He went on hols but he never texted i wasnt surprised but i was hoping he would. When he got home i texted him he replyed saying oh am wrecked and i asked who went and he says 6 lads and a girl and he went on saying such a great hol and now there are planning a weekend to where that girl lives over in uk! I was bulling but i didnt let on. I want to meet up with him again, i did ask would he come down for a 40th birthday party at the end of the month he said he didnt know as he has rent to pay as he is a bit broke. Is he making excuses?

i dont know what the hell is after happening am i overeacting i mean if he wasnt into me he wouldnt have bothered answering or ringing me?? I need your advice am doing me head in as i really like him. Please advise Thanks:o

stackerman

Spainy1 wrote: »

I have been dating a guy i met on the internet for a couple of months. We get on great and we have met about 3 times and really fab time together. He came down all the way from belfast to galway one night to go to a gig with me with heaps of traffic a head of him but he made it. That night however i asked to come to the evening of my friends wedding he quickly said yes:) Then after a hour he just comes out with i think the world of you and am very fond of you but i dont think i could get hurt again!! He is out of a realtionship with ex nearly 10 months so he got very hurt as she cheated.

He came down to the wedding he met my friends and they all liked him i was delighted. I havent met him since:( I know he was going on hols with the lads and he had to save up he was still in contact but not as much!

He went on hols but he never texted i wasnt surprised but i was hoping he would. When he got home i texted him he replyed saying oh am wrecked and i asked who went and he says 6 lads and a girl and he went on saying such a great hol and now there are planning a weekend to where that girl lives over in uk! I was bulling but i didnt let on. I want to meet up with him again, i did ask would he come down for a 40th birthday party at the end of the month he said he didnt know as he has rent to pay as he is a bit broke. Is he making excuses?

i dont know what the hell is after happening am i overeacting i mean if he wasnt into me he wouldnt have bothered answering or ringing me?? I need your advice am doing me head in as i really like him. Please advise Thanks:o

Jasus, just chill out and let it happen naturally. The harder you push the less likely he will be to see you and build something. Esp since he's just out of a relationship.
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Silverfish

Spainy1, I have split your post to it's own thread so you may get more advice specific to your issue.

SarahSassy

OP he doesnt sound all the pushed Im afraid. He seems to be willing to make the effort when there is nothing else going on but he should be keeping up the contact and momentum after you meeting... Dont pin all your hopes on him, keep dating others and see if something pans out but I dont think he has money issues given that he is planning another weekend away...

Miss Fluff

He doesn't sound that keen tbh OP. And he has categorically stated he doesn't really want to get into anything right now, i.e. get hurt again is subtext for he's not looking for anything serious. I wouldn't pin much hope on him, stop chasing him with texts/calls/invites...if he wants to see you he will make an effort to do so. Get yourself back out there and date other people, sounds like a time waster to me.

dirtydress

You seem to be inviting him to a lot of family/high pressured events for only having met him 3 times. He probably feels a bit under pressure that its so serious so quickly. He also probably felt that after his holiday which was so relaxed and easy that your "relationship" so far is quite hard work. You also have to remember a lot of people go for the online dating thing to ease themselves back into dating again after a tough relationship/break up and its important to be sensitive to that.

It also seems like you keep asking him to go see you and in fairness its expensive to travel from Belfast to Galway. I would suggest next time you go up to him and keep it casual...day trip or something, no more of these family events.

Spainy1

Thanks for the advice...But just for the wedding bit it wasnt a family wedding it was a friends wedding. He is back in contact again..And yes i do agree that i should lay off...:o