Need dating ideas please...

LegacyUser

Background: Close to 30 and have been out of the dating scene for a while due to a long term relationship.. recently met a nice girl at a festival a week ago and we kissed a bit. I have her contact details and now wondering what to do next... I would like to see her.

So what do people do these days? Meal, go for a drink or a pizza? Walk on the beach? Or just a coffee in the evening? What do you do afterwards? Obviously you don't want to go somewhere that you will be meeting other people, e.g. friends, and getting distracted.. How long should I wait to contact? No harm in waiting a bit to keep her wondering

I'm sorry... haven't "dated" in a while. I'm used to meeting girls recently, and having a kiss but have no idea what to do next!

Thanks for any advice...

meditraitor

daterdude wrote: »

Background: Close to 30 and have been out of the dating scene for a while due to a long term relationship.. recently met a nice girl at a festival a week ago and we kissed a bit. I have her contact details and now wondering what to do next... I would like to see her.

So what do people do these days? Meal, go for a drink or a pizza? Walk on the beach? Or just a coffee in the evening? What do you do afterwards? Obviously you don't want to go somewhere that you will be meeting other people, e.g. friends, and getting distracted.. How long should I wait to contact? No harm in waiting a bit to keep her wondering

I'm sorry... haven't "dated" in a while. I'm used to meeting girls recently, and having a kiss but have no idea what to do next!

Thanks for any advice...

Dont bother waiting, call her and see if she is still interested and if so go for a few beers.

Good luck

Lola92

daterdude wrote: »

wondering what to do next... I would like to see her.


No harm in waiting a bit to keep her wondering

If you would like to see this girl then call her, let her know you are interested. Girls don't like to be kept waiting and wondering, it usually leads to a reasonable assumption that said guys were only after a good night etc.

Best of luck with it though!:)

LegacyUser

thanks for the advice!!

I was hanging out with her and her friends for a couple of evenings, we only kissed a small few times..

so is a message on facebook a good idea? or is a phonecall better (or too intrusive)? should i let her know i'm calling first using txts?

LegacyUser

by the way, any more ideas for dates other than "a few beers"? i don't drink, so maybe some food would be good? hmmmm....

LegacyUser

i know it's terrible that I don't know this, but if you meet a girl in the pub is it ok to do some kissing or should you wait till leaving her home or whatever??

sorry, i really don't know because I've always been out with my [ex] girlfriend for the past few years and we always kissed everywhere we went hehe

Lilym

go for it ..give her a call food cinema drinks (it doesn't matter that you don't drink ) have a good time

parker kent

I wouldn't go to the cinema for a date at this stage. Something a bit casual might be good. Maybe go to a comedy show or else just drinks. A walk wasn't a bad idea either.I would say avoid the cinema because it basically prevents you form speaking to her for 2 hours. Plenty of girls that I've known don't like the cinema as a date, it's better to have somewhere you can relax and chat.

Colonel_McCoy

Firstly call her......................what about going for a walk on the beach then something to eat afterwards in a nice pub.

modest_marie

I would say anything that gives ye a chance to talk, and get to know her.
Take her to a Haagen Dazs place! There's a lovely one in Temple Bar. That'd be lovely

I know what you mean about coming out a of a long term thing and wondering what to do next! But it gets easier as time goes on. You can always mention it to her that you're a small bit out of practice. She might think that's cute and appreciate your honesty.

Good luck

studiorat

Coffee and an Art Gallery of a Sunday afternoon? Maybe dinner afterwards if things are going well, sounds like it could go well already. Afternoon dates are always less formal and easier to get out of if things don't go well IMO.

I think asking a girl to go for a walk with you sounds like you want to murder her or something. "Don't mind the shovel and the lenght of rope in the boot of the car love!!!"

grizzly

If you're both on facebook – drop her a friendly note saying how you had a great time at the festival (keep it short). Then wait for a reply. If her reply comes quick and is positive – ask her out. Check what stuff she is into from her profile – act accordingly.

shellyboo

Don't contact her on Facebook if you have her number! Text or call her. And soon!

Novella

You might as well give her a call and see if she'd like to meet up. You have nothing to lose, OP. She will either be delighted you called and want to see you or not interested. Either way, it's better to know than to wait around stressing about it and wondering. If she's not keen, that's fine, you don't have to see her anymore anyway!

I wouldn't recommend a FB message, definitely ring her. It's the more mature and confident thing to do and I think she'd appreciate it more.

You can invite her anywhere really, whatever you're into and think she'd like too. I don't think it's weird to ask someone out to dinner but if you wanna keep in more informal, maybe lunch is a better option. I wouldn't advise going for a few beers though. I'd find it off-putting if a guy invited me out for drinks on a first date.

Best of luck