Asked out by old guy

LegacyUser

I work in a busy supermarket and am an outgoing and friendly person by nature. There is a rep who calls every Wednesday and we got chatting a few weeks back. He asked in a round about way was I single and I said yes, but I was giving up the dating scene for a very long time as I'm always treated badly by men.

Anyway, he called yesterday and followed me about the store as I was trying to go about my work while he was waiting to be speak to my manager. After he spoke to the manager he came over and announces "we must go out to dinner sometime", I replied something along the lines of "ya maybe" and then he asked me for my number, I felt completely put on the spot and just made up a number off the top of my head.

Now I'm dreading next Wednesday as he's going to be calling to my workplace, hopefully he won't have tried ringing the number, but even so he makes me uncomfortable. By the way, I'm 33 and he's a grandfather in his 60's!

Colonel_McCoy

Best to tell him next time if he brings the subject up that you are not interested in a work related relationshsip or something like that

snowy2008

the same thing happened to me when i was 24 and he was well over 60,he wanted to go travellin "do the australia thing" needless to say i declined.... i think its like a mid life crisis these guys go through, just say you kinda busy, i think he'll take the hint, hes old enough to know your not interested

RacoonQueen

Are you sure he's that old? Maybe he thinks you're a bit older than you are? Maybe a nice way to put it would be that you think the age gap is too big.

Emme

Just tell him that you would rather not date customers and you feel uncomfortable about the way he went about asking you out.

Oulfellas, you have to love them for their deluded ideas of their own eligibility!:rolleyes:

VaioCruiser

As a guy in my late 40's I have to laugh at the antics of these posters. I would guess that this guy is probably in his 40's or 50's at most. He is probably a light hearted charmer who chats up all the girls he encounters on his travels and does the number thing for the crack, not really expecting anyone to take him up on it.
It is endlessly amusing to read people in their 20's who have this cute naivete about what it is like to be over 40 and the gasps of astonishment they have when they find girls dating men a lot older, something that has gone on for time immemorial. As a guy who has been single for more than ten years now I can say that not only have I had several relationships with girls in their early thirties but have been approached on many many occasions by girls of that age. Narrow minded concepts of age are so silly. I know ladies of 42 who look and act like they are 60, and ladies of 50 who look and act like a 36 or 40 year old. Age is a number. Get a grip.

All the best

Emme

VaioCruiser wrote: »

As a guy in my late 40's I have to laugh at the antics of these posters. I would guess that this guy is probably in his 40's or 50's at most. He is probably a light hearted charmer who chats up all the girls he encounters on his travels and does the number thing for the crack, not really expecting anyone to take him up on it.

She said he was a grandfather in his 60s. If he was messing he wouldn't have asked for her number after he asked her out to dinner. Or maybe it was you that asked her out? :P

VaioCruiser

No it was not me .. :rolleyes:

However you would be astonished at how appallingly inaccurate people assess older people's ages.

I have met many people in their thirties who have opined on my age at anything from 42 to 65 ! Those under thirty have generally assessed me at over 60

I still think this guy was well under 50 and when it comes to guessing, I suspect that the OP was also 'guessing' ... ?

(And in my time in retail management asking for a number by these charmers is all part of the game)

All the best !

kittenkiller

VaioCruiser wrote: »

As a guy in my late 40's I have to laugh at the antics of these posters. I would guess that this guy is probably in his 40's or 50's at most. He is probably a light hearted charmer who chats up all the girls he encounters on his travels and does the number thing for the crack, not really expecting anyone to take him up on it.
It is endlessly amusing to read people in their 20's who have this cute naivete about what it is like to be over 40 and the gasps of astonishment they have when they find girls dating men a lot older, something that has gone on for time immemorial. As a guy who has been single for more than ten years now I can say that not only have I had several relationships with girls in their early thirties but have been approached on many many occasions by girls of that age. Narrow minded concepts of age are so silly. I know ladies of 42 who look and act like they are 60, and ladies of 50 who look and act like a 36 or 40 year old. Age is a number. Get a grip.

All the best

Now now, no need to take it personally.

Don't worry OP. The wrong number will get the message across.
Unless he's *so* old that he just presumes that he put it into his phone wrong because the buttons are so small and he misses the days of the rotary phones?

Take it as a compliment and forget about it.

Firetrap

Seriously though, if he does come back to ask you out, you're as well to be straight with him. Tell him that you don't want to mix business and pleasure. Or lie and tell him that you got talking to some nice guy the other evening (yeah it's a lame excuse but maybe it will give him the message).