moving in 2gether?

LegacyUser

hello,

my friend is moving in with her boyfriend, they are going out 4 and half months. Is this too soon, ? i personally think it is way too soon myself! just think its a bit mental but then maybe other people will think its fine? is it

Xiney

Well, whether it's too soon or not isn't really any of your business, is it now?

shellyboo

They'll know themselves whether it feels right or not, and besides... it's got nothing to do with you!

puglover

anommmy wrote: »

hello,

my friend is moving in with her boyfriend, they are going out 4 and half months. Is this too soon, ? i personally think it is way too soon myself! just think its a bit mental but then maybe other people will think its fine? is it

It's different for everyone. Could be a mistake or the might just get along fine. Either way tisn't for you to decide

SheRa

You might think that its too soon, but they obivously dont. I know people that have moved in after that amount of time and they are really happy.

squonk

Swings and roundabouts! I know a couple who moved intogether after 3 and a half to 4 months who subsequently married and years on are still very happy so it's for the couple to decide. It's not really anyting to do with you but it is a mark of being a decent friend though that you're worried about her and how she's getting on. Nothing you can do or say matter s to them now so you're better off just going along and being there for her if things don't work out later, or being veryhappy for her when they do!

LegacyUser

well to the first poster i never said it was my business i just wanted to know peoples opinions on how long is good to move in with someone. it is totally none of my business, but she has asked for my advice and because i think it is too soon i was thinking "well maybe im wrong " and i wanted to ask peoples opinions here. no point in being bitchy to me. she is my best friend and i want her to be happy , i just want to say the right things to her as i am meeting her later.

LegacyUser

leave it to your friend to decide if its the right time i know i wouldnt like my friend butting in

SarahSassy

OP is not butting in - she is asking peoples opinions fully knowing that its none of her own business....

OP, I dont think anyone can tell. I ended up inadvertently living with my OH quite early and are still going strong. A friend moved in with her now hubby after 2 months are are together 10 yerars, another friend went out with his wife for 8 years not living together and have split up etc etc

No one can predict. If it feels right then do it.

anommy

anommy wrote: »

well to the first poster i never said it was my business i just wanted to know peoples opinions on how long is good to move in with someone. it is totally none of my business, but she has asked for my advice and because i think it is too soon i was thinking "well maybe im wrong " and i wanted to ask peoples opinions here. no point in being bitchy to me. she is my best friend and i want her to be happy , i just want to say the right things to her as i am meeting her later.

I understand why you're asking here and would advise you to give your friend the same answers you've had here ... "it's not my business, you guys should know if the time is right" ... for your own sake you're better off out of it, they have to do this on their own.

LegacyUser

SarahSassy wrote: »

OP is not butting in - she is asking peoples opinions fully knowing that its none of her own business....

OP, I dont think anyone can tell. I ended up inadvertently living with my OH quite early and are still going strong. A friend moved in with her now hubby after 2 months are are together 10 yerars, another friend went out with his wife for 8 years not living together and have split up etc etc

No one can predict. If it feels right then do it.

Thanks sarahsassy. i hate when people ask about advice for a friend on these boards and particulary if you a girl paople jump to the conclusion that you a horrible nosy friend!!!Interesting examples you gave. thanks. ya its entirely up to them when you put it like that. its not as bad as it sounds then i guess!

Wibbs

Not a PI for the OP and the answers so far pretty much cover it anyway. Closed.