Never been in a relationship

LegacyUser · 08-09-2009 9:28pm #1

I'm 24 female, outgoing person, good craic and fun to be around but have never had a boyfriend or been in an intimate relationship. Am I alone in posting this thread?

LegacyUser · 08-09-2009 9:56pm

29, same situation - their loss eh?! I'm blocking out the ticking of the biological clock in my head.

LegacyUser · 08-09-2009 10:06pm

same situation op..
24y old guy, dont think im too bad and look after myself, but same result..
only 1 thing u can do really: stay positive and dont rush anything, if its a serious relationship that you want

LegacyUser · 08-09-2009 10:39pm

Yep, 24, female, friendly, outgoing, well liked, attractive, yadda yadda...never had a serious relationship.

I could, and have, psycho-analysed til the cows come home...have looked within and looked outside of myself and I'm sure there are many contributing factors, but I think what it boils down to is I just haven't met someone who's right for me yet. I'm not one to go out with someone for the sake of being in a relationship, obviously you're the same.

Enjoy your life and work on being the best version of yourself you can be - work on your fitness, career, hobbies, travel the world...live your life for YOU right now and it will happen when it happens. We're both young after all, and Murphy's Law dictates that the more we stress about this, the less likely it is to happen, so just concentrate on having fun!

R xx

kjl · 09-09-2009 4:18am

Without meaning to sound mean, but maybe its time you all lowered you standards.

LegacyUser · 09-09-2009 6:50am

its not all about lowering standards..
its about meeting a person that its right for you, if we could accept anyone even people that we arent attracted to or we dont get along with whats the point??

DagneyTaggart · 09-09-2009 7:56am

I have two pieces of advice: 1) When you go out, talk to everyone. This works for a few reasons. It's good practice, you meet lots of people & and when you meet someone you like you'll find it easy to talk to them. 2) Know what you like. Blond, brunette, tall, short, loyal, friendly, arrogent, mean, whatever, but keep it in mind what you value.

I'm no expert but this works for me. Enjoy yourself.

Silverfish · 09-09-2009 8:27am

SLUSK this is not a dating site.

SLUSK · 09-09-2009 8:43am

Dear moderator, I was not suggesting they should go out on a date either.

Peggypeg · 09-09-2009 9:15am

Bet the OP feels better now, you are not alone. Nothing wrong with not being in a relationship etc. Are you happy? That's the most important thing, someone will come along when the times right, don't lower your standards and stop worrying about it.

prinz · 09-09-2009 9:26am

sameboat2! wrote: »

I'm not one to go out with someone for the sake of being in a relationship, obviously you're the same.

Here's the killer. You're dead right. I was the same but luckily enough met the right girl. This compulsion to be in a relationship no matter what drives so many people into relationships and makes them remain in relationships even when they are unhealthy and unconstructive. It's definitely something that appears to me to be a greater social force here than in many countries.

LegacyUser · 09-09-2009 11:51am

i went all through secondary school and college and didnt have a boyfriend - i was in my final year at college, i was 22, and i met my first boyfriend. Before that i was like - god im never going to meet anyone! Then when i wasn't expecting it I met a lovely guy - we went out for about 4 years. He also was in my college - and we were like - how come we didnt meet earlier. So just chillax, stop thinking about it and it will happen

kjl · 09-09-2009 12:21pm

be careful when you do get a b/f, because you will stink of desperation and that is not an attractive trate in someone. When you do meet mr/mrs right, be cool and act natural or else the will walk all over you.

abceire · 09-09-2009 1:56pm

i know a few of my ex mates were older then 24, and single, great girls to, fun to be with and easy on the eyes, couldnt understand why they were still single and never had relationship,i was same, i was 28 before i d gf, i was her 1st bf too, it was so great, i thought it would never happen like you, i would say maybe , give people a chance, like if your asked out and dont know should you say yes or no, maybe go anyway,sure even if you just have a laugh and nice dinner and thats all, thats fine too,

Never been in a relationship

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