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Wrecked with guilt over family treatment

  • 07-09-2009 5:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi
    I just need to get this off my chest.
    I love my family to bits but sometimes it's like 'the kids' versus 'the parents', and it's all our own doing. Our parents are the best in the world, when i think of all they've done for us and helped us with I could cry. The things we've been through as a family should keep us close but sometimes we get on each other's nerves, just little things, nothing major. It's my other sibling that causes the most grief, constantly telling them off and what to do, it makes family life unbearable sometimes and it's as though we act like the parents and the parents are the children.
    This makes my heart break. I only want the best for my parents and love them to bits and sometimes I find it hard to be patient with them but I try my best. My sibling does not. I never give out about any of them to any one else, I keep my feelings about them to myself. But the very rare time I let off steam to my mother about my sibling or vice versa, but it's nothing malicious or bitchy. And then I'm absolutely riddled with guilt if I do because I love them all so much and I don't want it to be like ganging up.
    God am I even making sense?


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    Maybe your sibling needs a dose of reality, and hear exactly what an asshole he/she is being. Your parents raised you both and deserve to be treated better than he/she (your sibling) is treating them.

    Kevin


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You poor thing - welcome to a perfectly normal family! My family is small too - some days I whinge to my Mum about my Dad, then to my Dad about my Mum, then to my aunt about both of them, then to both of them about her!!! And they do the same. The Brady Bunch doesn't exist. As you've said, there's no harm in it, it's letting off steam. People are always going to get on our nerves, even those we love most, and yes, if I've had a go at my parents I feel terrible afterwards because they're the best in the world. Just say sorry, laugh about it and never go to bed on an argument. We often bring up a previous argument in a jokey way to further take the sting out of it!
    As for your sister, don't be afraid to stick up for your parents if she comes out with something unacceptable - just say "hey, don't be so hard on them, they're not that bad!" and laugh at her, make her sound unreasonable. When she realises she doesn't have an appreciative audience she'll soon get tired of it.
    Really - apart from toning her down a bit, you have nothing to worry about, all families are like that and could cheerfully kill each other - once you'd kill for each other too, that's all that matters. You're very lucky to have each other, it sounds like a strong unit to me :)


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