Attraction

confusedIam

Some insight required please!

My problem is that I'm not really sure why, but I seem to attract guys only interested in a fling/one night stand - take for example my most recent encounter;

I was in a UK airport last week when I got approached by a guy...he sat down, chatted and seemed nice. He asked me to accompany him for a drink, we chatted, he asked for my number and we then left on seperate flights - later that evening I got a text from him asking if we could be 'airport lovers'? I thought it a bit odd but replied trying to be lighthearted going ehh yeah right. But this was followed by an explanation of what he meant (we both travel for work so would arrange to meet in airports for some 'fun') and over the last few days by texts asking "when was my last man", asking to meet up for the night etc...

He seemed pretty normal and nice so I'm wondering if its something that I'm doing or was this just a random event? Note, I was dressed professionally (in a suit) and don't think I give the impression that "I'm up for it". But its not the first time its happened...I've even been offered money for sleeping with someone! I'm not gorgeous and not dressed inappropriately so whats going on? (I'm 27 if that helps!)

Do you think that its true that you send out the signals to attract what you think you deserve?

Wibbs

confusedIam wrote: »

Do you think that its true that you send out the signals to attract what you think you deserve?

Sometimes yea and some do as part of a bigger picture, but sometimes, actually often, we just have a bad run of eejits and shít just happens. I think if you have this issue over a few years and successive guys(or gals) then you are enabling it somewhat or you're hanging around the wrong people or places

Nitxteha

It's not you, it's him. Don't mind him, delete his number. There are idiots everywhere even at airports

No you don't attract those, it's just that there are very many, stay away from them. There are nice guys too, have your eyes wide open for them and don't waste your time with loosers.

LegacyUser

Nitxteha wrote: »

It's not you, it's him. Don't mind him, delete his number. There are idiots everywhere even at airports

No you don't attract those, it's just that there are very many, stay away from them. There are nice guys too, have your eyes wide open for them and don't waste your time with loosers.

Why is he a looser and not a nice guy just because he wants some fun! He asked a question and she replied. I dont see the problem. In this life too many people are afraid to ask for what they want as it might not be seemed as socially acceptable. Fair play to him I say. And Im a female!

Taltos

Am with Wibbs on this.
If this has happened more than once then maybe you need to take a step back to see why they might be approaching you.

We should be able to dress and present ourselves as we want however sometimes we have to consider that the image we actually present is something quite different...

I guess there are 2 ways you could look at this.
1) You got chatted up by a weirdo - or someone just desperate for a FB - even an airport one... Wonder what his wife would have thought....
2) Take it as a compliment that you are getting this attention. - but what are you attracting attention quite like this?