Confused with girl!

josh90

Hey folks looking for a bit of help with this situation.
I have known a girl for about a year now, we were dating for a couple of months and stuff then we took a break, a couple of months ago we started seeing eachother again which was great. Then this week we were meant to go out and she cancelled on me last minute, so we rearranged for another day which she said she was looking forward to etc, then at the last minute she cancels again. Then she told me she has to be honest that she is a little freaked by commitment because she has been hurt before, i told her the same and we decided to take things slowly, but put in the effort. I am still a little confused though because sometimes she is saying things like 'your great' 'your sexy' etc then other times she barely replies to my txts. Any help appreciated on what to do i really like this girl and i know she likes me and would love to have a full relationship with her. thanks (sorry about long thread)
Josh

star-pants

Sounds more like she's not ready for a relationship than scared to have one. Heck I get scared about being hurt (cuz it happens almost every time) but if I feel like it's going well at the time, I'll put in the effort.
The fact ye took a break, tried again, and she's getting cold feet *again* would be sign to me to re-evaluate. How much longer are you going to stay with someone who's hot and cold all the time? One min fine, next won't reply to your texts.
Personally, I'd have a talk with her and ask what's really up.

CDfm

What star-pants says is true.

I don't know what ages you are but this seems very much like game playing whether or not she believes it.

Look at it logically - she has been hurt by someone else and not you yet you recieve the grief and this is not logical. My opinion you can't make up for something you did not do and her inability to make a commitment belongs to her and not to you.Explain this to her.

If you want to give her time well and good but put a finite limit on it. A month should be enough. If at the end of that time it is still confusing you and you are no further along you should throw in the towel.

josh90

Thanks for the replys guys.
I have been delibratly putting distance between us, eg not replying to txts on purpose and then she will txt again and again until i reply so i think she does have some interest.
Just to elaborate on the break we had, i was actually the one who suggested it because i felt we were moving too fast whereas she was very keen on me and she was txting me quite a lot during it to which i didnt reply, so maybe when she says she was hurt before it could of been because of me? just a thought, thanks guys

star-pants

Well maybe she's afraid of you wanting a break again? And if you stopped replying to texts maybe she's trying that tactic with you to see if you're interested?

Only true way to know is to have a talk with her, tell her how you feel etc

Terodil

Quit playing games and start behaving like adults. And don't stumble over your own feet.