Trying to figure out if guy is gay or not...

LegacyUser

Ok so there is this guy I have liked for 2 years now. Hes not the type I go for as he is overweight etc but I like him, oh and he is 10 years older than me, hes tall and good looking. Over the years there have being stories about him being gay, but obviously this is just talk. I have seen him in the local niteclub kissing a girl and have seen him chatting women but it just seems like an act, it doesn't seem as if he is into them and possibly is hiding his sexuality.

I have grown to know him through our local and we get on well, i'm not out eirther so he wouldn't know I'm gay. He ALWAYS asks me do I have a girlfriend and says ''oh i heard you have a new woman'' but i just say well ''you heard wrong''. I asked him one night did he have a girlfriend and he answered, ''oh i'm too quiet for any of that'', whatever that means I don't know.

When we are talking I always get a vibe that he is checking me out and I've seen him look at me but he was unaware I noticied. He always comes to chat to me in our local pub and asks alot if I want to go into town to the nite club with him. One night he was drunk and I was abit too and I had no way home, and he was like ''i'l look after you'' and was adamant that i get home safe.

So basically I suspect he is gay as others have said but he is obviously playing the straight game. I want to get closer to him but I just dunno how? What kind of approach do I take with him? Do you guys think he would be gay form what I have said? Thanks

dave98

Its hard to say if hes gay or not from that. Im in the same position a bit but the guy I like has a gf but acts gay at times. I would say you should just spit it out and ask him but I know how hard this is to do. I'd still go ahead and ask as he has no gf

Annasopra

Not sure but possibly if you told him that you were gay then he might do the same

AARRRGH

He could just be a nice, friendly guy!

I think you should risk telling him you're gay. Worst case scenario he doesn't want to be your friend anymore, but hey, you probably don't want to be friends with someone who thinks like that.

Damien1989

AARRRGH wrote: »

He could just be a nice, friendly guy!

I think you should risk telling him you're gay. Worst case scenario he doesn't want to be your friend anymore, but hey, you probably don't want to be friends with someone who thinks like that.

Agreed

boredboard

have been in similar situations... you would be very brave to broach (sp?) the subject of homosexuality with another man in rural (i assume) Ireland imho... If he is in fact in denial himself of his sexuality I think you should forget about him and move on (assuming you want more than a one night drunken fumble)... seeing as he appears to be at an age where he is unlikely to change

Dwn Wth Vwls

Coming out to him might scare him off and send him into a macho retreat. If you're reading him correctly, that he's checking you out etc, then I imagine all you really need to do is spend more time alone with him. Something would probably happen naturally, and if it doesn't then it's no loss and no drama.

renraw

I think he may be just a good mate. Please be careful, I have a lot of straight mates and the kind of affection and attention they show me would throw anybody off, but because I know them, I know where they're coming from