everything in my life is so negative

iguana2005

AGHAGHAGHAG...thats how I feel...you would think that at 35 years of age you would have some balance in your life and would be enjoying your children and watering the plants in your lovely family home...NOT!!

Everything seems to be turning to smulch...my head is throbbing with thoughts...i dont even get to sleep properly as my head is going 90 all night with worries...and am wrecked then in the morning...even my friends are getting a little tired of me now...am constantly negative..

so when does it happen?..when do you wake up and think 'god its good to be alive thanks for everything'...

My family life is a mess...parents nearly divorced and drinkers...and lots of negative stuff going on and lots of guilt put my way as live on my own and live my own life...my job i nearly lost last month and the thought of where would i live, where would i get money..drove me to distraction...my life has been one big mess from day one and im still struggling..

I would love to settle down for more than 2 years without getting bullied at work/being made redundant/worrying so much about the future/not seeing my folks drink and family getting on and having a relationship/not have to worry about rent going up again/worrying out what will happen when im 60 and no kids/house/////

Seriously when will i become sane?? have gone for councelling/changed diet/meditation/exercise....all short term but nothing drastic has ever changed in my life

LegacyUser

Listen Im 33 and I feel like I havent worked anything out yet. And I dont have a wife and kids. So hang in there. Keep trying different things. Youre aware you have a problem ..Ill bet youll solve it. Every problem has a solution.

Kevster

Hi,

You will have to weigh-up everything that has happened and then tackle each [bad] thing one at a time. If you try to focus on everything at once, then you will feel overwhelmed and won't get too far. So, instead, just focus on one problem at a time, devote some thought to how to get through it best, carry out the recovery plan, and then move onto the next problem.

Kevin

LegacyUser

Hi there,

I am 37 and I currently have a lot of negative things happening in my life - in fact it is the worst year of my life so far so I can sympathise.

In short I have had a very stressful few months and lots of issues happening including splitting up with my partner whom I was going to marry - anyway, with this issue myself, a huge family issue that cannot be resolved, serious financial issues, and a serious car crash all happening to me within a couple of weeks I then heard he started seeing someone new and it was the tip of the iceberg for me. I found myself sitting in a doctors office crying my eyes out......until he made me see reason.

Seriously, the doctor talked me through all the issues one by one, explained that in life we all have issues but they usually come one by one and can be sorted out. You seem to be a bit like me and everything is coming at you at once. its hard to cope when everything comes at you at once. The doctor prescribed a week of mild sleeping tablets, which helped me sleep and stopped my mind racing. It is surprising how much clearer you feel after a nights sleep! He also gave me one piece of key advice - Stop worring about things that you have no control over, and take care of the things you can - namely yourself. Start to eat better, sleep better and exercise a bit - it is amazing by doing these small things how much better you will feel and as a result you will be calmer and more in control of everything else.

I think for myself, by being so down and negative I was attracting negative things to me. But now I feel so much better - my problems have not gone away but to be honest I am looking at them a lot differently and so they dont seem as big.

I hope this help. Thinking of you, as I know there are many of us out there in the same boat

dreadlocks

You come across as being a constant victim, at home and at work. Distance yourself from your damaging parents they may only drag you down further. Suss out other job opportunities if you feel that your work might be in danger. I dunno, maybe take time to enjoy the finer things in life like meeting positive friends, enjoying hobbies.