Reading too far into it?

economist.09

I've recently noticed I've been getting quite a lot of attention from one of my not so close female friends. Now she's a stunner and incredibly intelligent (big plus!), so I'm in no way annoyed or anything, but she's also a flirt. Nearly every guy seems to fall at her feet, but when they make a move she rejects them. But for some reason, I feel as though I'm different (but I'm sure every guy she's rejected thought they were "different" too!)

If anyone watched this year's Big Brother, she's exactly like Noirin!

Why do girls do this, lead you on, and then knock you down? And is it worth taking a risk and making a move, baring in mind that I find rejection incredibly difficult to shake off? If I don't make a move I feel as though she might start to think I'm not interested and move on to someone else. Anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do?

wexford202

OP you are thinking correctly. Every guy does think that she is serious when flirting with them

Stay away my friend. She may be ht but there are plenty of hot girls out there.

Unless she makes a move and I mean a proper move, not a talking move but when she plants a kiss on your lips then and only maybe she is into you.

She is a PRI&K tease.

It's what we women do.

Nevyn

Some women are not all.
I suggest you ingore her behaviour and see what happens.

entropi

She sounds like an attention seeker OP, like Thaedydal said there just ignore her flirty ways and that'll give you an insight as to whether she's blowing hot and cold or serious.

iguana

Are you sure she's actually flirting and not just being really nice? It's pretty common for a girl who is open and friendly to have her male friends develop a crush on her and convince themselves that her friendliness means more than it does. I had it happen to me quite a lot when I was single, it happens to one of my single friends all the time now. Neither of us was/is the type to lead guys on, but neither of us have "girly" personalities, we generally prefer being one of the guys and it often got misinterpreted.

BumbleB

Thaedydal wrote: »

Some women are not all.
I suggest you ingore her behaviour and see what happens.

None of those guys are a challenge ,she has no interest in them because they are boring. And boring means not being able to stir her emotions.

Great advice ,just talk to her and if she flirts with you just stay detached , it works magic. For instance if she puts her hand on your knee don't look down ,just carry on talking like nothing happened ,this will throw her into total confusion and thats where you need to be. You need to do this until she goes out of flirt mode and into the person she really is. Then you can make progress.

G-Money

If she acts like Noirin I'd avoid her like the plague. She was a total head f**k "oh I like you, but we're just friends, but I love my ex, but I like you, but I love my ex, but lets snog, but we're just friends..." Seriously, that would drive a crazy person sane.

Personally, when it comes to attention seekers and d*** teasers and stuff, I think the best way to treat them is to act like they don't exist and are invisible. That way you deny them the thing they want the most.

kjl

i think there is a more serious issue at hand here, you actually watch big brother.

seriously though, you need to be an alpha male, treat he like a dick head, its the only way to deal with those lose cannon types

dblennon

Yes Agree with everything above here,

You need to be seriously alpha male to get the attraction of a girl like this

1. she will flirt strongly with you until she knows you are interested.
2. feel free to flirt back and strongly, you can be quite sexual with girls like this.
3. keep your interactions to a tight deadline always ensure you have an early escape from the conversation before she has her fill.
4. when she starts actively seeking you out for a chat (not email,text or facebook) then you have taken the power.
5. It depends on the girl some need to pretty much want to jump your bones before they'll accept a date!!!(and they'll hide it well), others will very obviously switch into the oridinary girl mode with normal indicators of interest (touching you, laughing at almost everything, giddy) I've seen top notch solicitors do the giddy laughing one, its gas!!

patftrears

kjl wrote: »

i think there is a more serious issue at hand here, you actually watch big brother.

seriously though, you need to be an alpha male, treat he like a dick head, its the only way to deal with those lose cannon types

dblennon wrote: »

Yes Agree with everything above here,

You need to be seriously alpha male to get the attraction of a girl like this

1. she will flirt strongly with you until she knows you are interested.
2. feel free to flirt back and strongly, you can be quite sexual with girls like this.
3. keep your interactions to a tight deadline always ensure you have an early escape from the conversation before she has her fill.
4. when she starts actively seeking you out for a chat (not email,text or facebook) then you have taken the power.
5. It depends on the girl some need to pretty much want to jump your bones before they'll accept a date!!!(and they'll hide it well), others will very obviously switch into the oridinary girl mode with normal indicators of interest (touching you, laughing at almost everything, giddy) I've seen top notch solicitors do the giddy laughing one, its gas!!

You haven't a clue, that is not how an alpha male behaves, it's how weak little boys behave when they're trying to emulate an alpha male.

This girl is going around throwing herself at blokes, she's not worth anything just don't bother with her.

economist.09

Wow thanks for all the responses, much appreciated! I think I'm going to try the whole "if she puts her hand on my knee, don't look down" kinda thing! No harm in flirting back, but I will wait for her to make a move.

And yes, I watch Big Brother, shame on me! But I believe one can draw important insights into life by watching it! As is the case with Noirin!