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Bereaved friends

  • 03-09-2009 12:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey y'all

    Firstly, I'm away from Ireland travelling at the mo, enjoying life to the fullest. The problem I have isn't really a problem, more of a "I want to see what other people have done in this situation" kinda thing.

    Two of my best friends have lost family members while I've been away, both in sudden circumstances (one lost her brother only yesterday).

    My first friend - lets call her Ann - has not been dealing with her bereavement very well and texts and rings me to tell me when she's having a bad moment - I'm glad she's doing this as she says its easier to tell me things as I'm not there now - she doesn't want other friends to know she's still not dealing very well with her situation.

    I give Ann as much advice as I can, listen mostly, write letters and emails and try and get her to talk as much as possible, also suggested a bereavement counsellor. She shot down the idea of this immediately as she doesn't like the idea of counsellors.

    Has anyone been through a similar situation? I think I' just feeling a bit lost myself as although I love travelling and working abroad, at the same time my heart is at home with my friends and I wish I could do more for them.

    Thanks.


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    My own extended family have suffered a few sudden deaths, and I personally have my own experience with counselling. Your friend might not be receptive if she hears about counselling from your voice, but if you email her links to counselling stories/websitges, then Im sure that she'll be much more receptive to it then.

    Kevin


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