What's important to you?

Will

I saw this, this morning on reddit with the title "pick two"



What is more important to you out of all those 3 in yourself? Or maybe least important. How about other people?

Life isn't so black and white and I'm not saying for a second people are summed up in those 3 categories but it just got me thinking.

To be honest being good looking would be the least of my worries out of those 3. Good looks go with time, while it's the first thing someone notices about you, once they get to know you it's the last thing they think about. Intelligence and emotional stability are pretty close. There's no point being smart if you are a fruit loop, and vice versa. But I believe they're more important.

Anywho figured I would get the other lads opinions and maybe carry on with the good discussion we've been having of late in here

Fajitas!

I'm happy being happy, and I'm happy with my smarts. I can dress well after that.

L31mr0d

This is going to be like one of those threads like "what sense could you not live without?"... most people always pick "sight"

I can't imagine anyone would pick "Good Looks" over "Intelligence" and mean it

That being said. It really depends on what you mean by "good looks", if I pick the other 2 and end up looking like elephant man... well, I'd sacrifice intelligence then. I'd rather be amazingly handsome and ignorant, then horribly ugly

I_am_Jebus

I think the problem with that question is that you could ask an individual the same question once a year for their entire lives and you are likely to have differing answers at different times.

Providing you are not talking about extremities (e.g. elephant man as mentioned above) then I would say on average and perhaps consistently over one's life emotional stability and intelligence wins out for me and probably would for the majority of people. but there are times (and for me in the past month) that I would vote looks. I am single at the moment and with no relationship/flame/fling on the horizon it feels that a change (imporvement in looks) would be nice.

It all depends... of course, all three would be great

Pherekydes

Looks are unimportant to me, but here's the kicker:

which two would you vote for your OH?

(If you don't have one, which two would you vote for a future OH?)

I'd pick the same two.

I_am_Jebus

Pherekydes wrote: »

Looks are unimportant to me, but here's the kicker:

which two would you vote for your OH?

(If you don't have one, which two would you vote for a future OH?)

I'd pick the same two.

every person would have a different idea of what looks are important to them though. What I find attractive, you might not and vice versa, it becomes a complicated question when you delve into it you see.

But ya, in general it would be emotional stability and intelligence for me too.

Actually now that I think about it, intelligence and looks might be a good idea. anyone I have gone out with in the past, if starting off emotionally stable, in a short amount of time become shivering wrecks. So what good is an emotionally stable woman to me starting off when it won';t last.

Snowie

you can't say looks are unimportant because general attraction usually stems from a cross the room glance!

CDfm

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

you can't say looks are unimportant because general attraction usually stems from a cross the room glance!

Aha snowy ya picked one:D

I saw Dolebusters from liverpool on TV last week and a guy there seemed content to do without all three.

Snowie

CDfm wrote: »

Aha snowy ya picked one:D

course i did i know what i likes :pac:

Pherekydes

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

you can't say looks are unimportant...

Well I can and I did!

For me emotional stability is the most important.
I'd choose Intelligence over looks, unless your talking about looking somehow damaged.
Not because I think intelligence is such an asset, but I see being too good looking as a liability in life.
Who's advantage I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting.

In a partner, it would be emotional stability first and foremost.
I've only ever come across one big girls blouse bloke.
But that is more than enough expierence with histronics for me for one lifetime. Thanks.
Looks (or rather attraction) second.
I'm not bothered about smarts. In fact arrogance over perceived intellectual superiority is a major turn off for me.

Homicidal_jesus

all i can say is you dont fall in love with someones personality at first glance

the looks are like a hook
but is the personality that keeps you there

Mackman

Its tough, because if ya spot a wan in a bar your not gonna say "she's looks emotionally stable, ill go and chat to her".
Looks are very important initally, because if your not physically attracted to that person, your not gonna invest in it.
But then again, if you met someone under different circumstances, say a friend thats intelligent and emotionally stable, but hasnt got much in the looks department. You might find yourself being attracted to her personality and looks dont matter as much.

As was posted before with regard to the looks, "elephant man", the same can be said about intelligence. There are different types of intelligence, academic, street smarts, nerdy, or just plain dumb.

I could sacrifice the intelligence for looks if they were at least street smart. Emotionally stability is very important to me though, as past experience has taught me

CDfm

Unless you have gone out with someone who is emotionally unstable you can underestimate its importance. It can be like dating a problem in PI.

A few years ago I became very friendly with a group of women there was a bit of yoga involved -just friends.When I was dating I looked at potential girlfriends that were like them and it worked.

Khannie

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

you can't say looks are unimportant because general attraction usually stems from a cross the room glance!

Depends on the person. Sure you can look across a room and think "I'd hit that" but the best relationships I've ever had have been with people that I've known first and found attractive after the initial meeting.

CDfm

CDfm wrote: »

Unless you have gone out with someone who is emotionally unstable you can underestimate its importance. It can be like dating a problem in PI.

A few years ago I became very friendly with a group of women there was a bit of yoga involved -just friends.When I was dating I looked at potential girlfriends that were like them and it worked.

Yoga isn't a euphemism is it?

Khannie

Khannie wrote: »

Depends on the person. Sure you can look across a room and think "I'd hit that" but the best relationships I've ever had have been with people that I've known first and found attractive after the initial meeting.

See I don't understand that phenom omen. Someone who I thought was attractive has ended up in the friend zone, but not vice versa.

Although it is a very very unusual thing for me to attracted to someone.

Fajitas!

If it was a member of the opposite sex I was going for, I'd love to be able to say Emotionally Stable and Intelligent, but tbh, I can't. I prefer emotional stability and intelligence for myself, but not for what I'm looking for in a partner.

Tbh, I'd end up going for looks and intelligence. I can handle the ups and downs with someone. I need to be attracted to them in the first place, and I really like someone with smarts. It makes a difference.

Snowie

Khannie wrote: »

Depends on the person. Sure you can look across a room and think "I'd hit that" but the best relationships I've ever had have been with people that I've known first and found attractive after the initial meeting.

I'm not talking about Id hit that kinda attraction. I'm talking about the attraction you find when your walking down a street and you notice a girl and your like :eek: a kinda of a mutual attraction if you will. I Think in some degree there has to be a physical attraction. I think its one of those things. call it a "spark"

CDfm

Moonbaby wrote: »

Yoga isn't a euphemism is it?

No - we met at a lifestyle event-yoga involved. The event was crap and we were the cynics and got friendly.