Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

3 months now - stay or go?

  • 02-09-2009 8:50pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I am with my boyfriend 3 months now. My previous relationship lasted a couple of years, but I finally came to realise we weren't right for each other. For the first 2 months of this new relationship I thought he was 'the one'. For the last couple of weeks I'm having serious doubts. I don't feel as attracted to him now, the way he eats and talks with his mouth full and slobbers food down his chin annoys me. Am I being petty? I am someone who was always very happy on my own. I met this guy online but not internet dating. Lately I just haven't been excited about meeting up with him... should I trust my gut? I also told people I had met someone recently... just dread telling them if it's going to be off. Should I give it more time?
    Thanks for reading.


Comments

  • #2
    ladymarmalade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 50 ✭✭ladymarmalade


    End it now he just doesn't do it for you.


  • #3
    notmyname79
    Closed Accounts Posts: 47 ✭notmyname79


    Is it just his eating habits that turn you off? Is he messy but you still fancy him? there has to be a pysical attraction. Can you think of any good points to the relationship?
    I think sometimes we get a gut feeling and you seem to be having doubts but also doubts that maybe you should stick it out a while.
    I came out of a long relationship and quickly into the one I'm with now, many times i felt like ending it over little things he did or his lack of commitment but I came to realise Im not perfect either and now a couple of years in I love him, its real love from the heart.
    I always stayed in relationships based on how they looked on paper but now I go with my heart and I'm finally happy. so listen to your gut and follow your heart.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Its perfectly natural to end a big relationship and jump right back into another one and realise that its not working. Sometimes we crave the comfort that we once had. If you are cool with being on your own for a while, do it! Just enjoy the freedom that you didnt have in a very serious relationship


  • #5
    Peggypeg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 578 ✭✭✭Peggypeg


    Doesn't sound like head over heels for the guy. A couple of months in I would expect to still be in the "i must have you now" stage. I'd say drop him, it's kinder than leading him on and you just don't sound like you're that into him. Also don't be worrying about what other people think.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    3 months isn't a very long time... it takes a lot longer to truly get to know someone, don't you think?


  • Advertisement
  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    i would trust your gut instinct. A few years back I was in a relationship for a year and a half, early on in the relationshiip I had a feeling it wasn't right for me but I stuck with it. ended up wasting my precious time. Your gut instinct it always right. I'm currently seeing a fella for a few months and I am going to end it. I just don't feel anything for him. Best to let him know now than drag it on and waste his time also. He's lovely but just not for me. Maybe it's the same for you, I started noticing small things that wreck my head, not saying I'm perfect but I feel if I'm headwrecked by small things already its not a good sign for me. All the best


Advertisement