Work Colleagues Making me Uncomfortable

LegacyUser

Hi there,
Recently I was at one of those awkward leaving lunches for someone at work and the usual office gossip/backstabbing started. People started talking about a single lady (50ish) in our office and suggesting that she had to be gay as she wasn't married or never mentioned a boyf. (small minded I know). Someone (a bitchy girl) at the table then turned to me and asked me if i Knew if this person was gay. I was taken aback and became uncomfortable and everyone looked at me. I am in my 30's and have been single for a few years. I don't usually discuss my personal life at work either. I would consider myself comfortable with my sexuality but ever since then I have noticed work colleagues mentioning people being gay when I am around I have started to get uncomfortable with the whole situation. I guess being honest I don;t like the fact of people thinking I am gay so have started to act paranoid when these digs are mentioned and find myself blushing. Any suggestions on how to deal with this?

SarahSassy

Mention something you did with your ex boyfriend.... They are small minded and I would personally let it go but if its getting to you then just do the above. You could always say 'just because people are single doesnt mean they are gay'....

Faith

I'd just light-heartedly say something like "guys, just because someone is single for a long time, it doesn't mean they're gay. Look at me, I'm as straight as they come and I've been single for a few years!".

LegacyUser

thanks guys - you are both very sweet to reply