BF (25) passing blood in urine

LegacyUser

My bf's best friend told me that my fella had been passin blood in his urine. He begged me not to tell my fella i knew as he doesnt want me to worry.

I said i wouldnt tell him he told me and that Id bring it up in another way.

Now its three days later and i havent brought myself to bring it up. I dont know where to start.

The blood could be nothing or could be very serious..

I dont want to break bf and friends trust or am i being silly bcos this problem could need immediate attention???

Wot wud u do?

Dr Galen

your BF needs to go and get checked out by a doctor. There shouldn't be blood in your urine, simple as that really. There can be many causes for this too, some simple, some not so simple. The only way to know is to get checked.

Your in a tight spot alright, because you don't want to break trust etc. But put yourself in his shoes. How would you react if he came to you having heard something from your friend? You might be angry for a short time, but soon you'd realise that your lucky to have a good mate jeeping an eye out for you, and a good boyf who gives a **** about what happens to you.

I'm going to leave this here so that people can maybe give some advice on how to address this for the OP, how she can bring it up etc, but anything that goes close to medical advice will be deleted and the thread will get locked

Teferi

TBH I'd get him to go to the doc immediately and deal with the consequences later. If I was pissin' blood I'd be freaking out and get myself to a doc as soon as possible.

Chances are he won't be annoyed at either of you for long, if at all.

Otis Driftwood

He definitly needs to get checked out with his GP asap.A few years ago I was in for a routine medical check up and there was traces of blood in my urine.Now it turned out there was nothing at all wrong,its just something that can occur from time to time (cant remember the term for it) but at the same time there could be an underlying problem so he does need to see his doctor sooner rather than later.

LegacyUser

Your all sayin what I know I should do.

My problem is my man is stubborn, he wouldnt go to a doctor of he was on his death bed.


I will talk to him later, get it sorted. I would kick myself if it was somethin serious that could hv bn sorted sooner.

Thanks for ur replies

Bottle_of_Smoke

You could say *you* have blood in your urine and you're going to the doctor. And to be honest its not impossible that might soon happen depending on what's causing it with him.

YOu could also tell your friend to insist he goes to the doctor, there's no way its "nothing"

The important thing is you do something soon. A few yearsrs back I had a kidney infection and it burned a little when I passed urine, beared with it for about two weeks until I was getting unbearable pain. A week of anti-biotics cured it completely but if I'd left it any longer I could have done permanent kidney damage. Men can be silly when it comes to the doctor.

CDfm

OP your boyfriend is 25 and is a man and presumeably you are of a similar age.

I honestly don't know what the friend wanted you to do with the information once he told you but really you know know and how you found out is of little consequence. This is one of those lessor of two evils where you should act.

So you know -what should you do. Very simple tell him you know and make a doctors appointment and try to get him to keep it.

From what I know stuff like this in a guy is usually a urinatary tract infection or kidney infection or bruising from an accident etc -rather than "oh my nuts are riddled with cancer" .

It happens that women grow up and know how to deal with this stuff and guys get shy and afraid.

Delaying medical examinations is stupid. This is from someone who wussed it up and got the girlfriend to come with him when getting blood test results which were fine. I only went to the doc in the first place cos I was nagged into a check up and she brought me to the hospital for tests

So in summary -you know -it needs to be checked -so talk to him about it and get him to the GP.

dingding

This could be serious and every year people suffer needlessly, or complicate a problem by not getting it addressed in the early stages.

For some illnesses speed is of the essence and the quicker it is dealth with the better the outcome.

challengemaster

How to do it -

Ask if he cares about you

Assuming yes - ask will he do it for you, not for himself.

If he doesn't... he's not only stupid but heartless too. Google passing blood in urine and you won't find pink fluffy bunnies and unicorns. If it's there and not meant to be, something's wrong.

pikachucheeks

One word : Doctor.

I'd guess a urine infection, but it could be anything.

Fajitas!

challengemaster wrote: »

If he doesn't... he's not only stupid but heartless too. Google passing blood in urine and you won't find pink fluffy bunnies and unicorns. If it's there and not meant to be, something's wrong.

Era don't go down that road. Don't pussyfoot around saying you've blood in your urine.

Be straight with him. If he's pissed off, just tell him to go to the doctors. It'll be worth it in the long run. Otherwise you're avoiding it as much as him.

CDfm

pikachucheeks wrote: »

One word : Doctor.

I'd guess a urine infection, but it could be anything.

The best friends reaction is almost comical - I can imagine if it was me and my girlfriend didn't drag me to the doctor my best friend would.

Quackles

If you really don't want to say something directly, how about saying that you spotted blood in the toilet, you know it wasn't you, is something wrong, see a doctor, so on, so forth..

CDfm

Quackles wrote: »

If you really don't want to say something directly, how about saying that you spotted blood in the toilet, you know it wasn't you, is something wrong, see a doctor, so on, so forth..

The indirect approach and the umm aaah is a bit like feeding his fears.

I wouldn't like it -I would prefer someone to be straight up with me- especially my girlfriend.

Drakmord

Straight to the doctor, blood in the urine can be a symptom of a very serious problem!!

metrovelvet

Im not a man but I know more about the male genito urinary system these days then I ever thought I would and you need to get him to a doctor FAST.

Dr Galen

ok i think things have run their course here. OP I think the message is loud and clear. Good luck and please post back again and let us know how you dealt with things

Cheers

MM