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How to ask her out !

  • 30-08-2009 10:59pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, Sorry for posting this but I haven't a clue what to do. I have known this girl for a little while now, we met through a work course, we have been out a couple of times together as friends (I think !) just to have a chat and catch up. We usually arrange to meet up by text and she generally suggests it. I am in my early 20's and I know it's sad but I have never asked anyone out on a date and I have no idea about signals so I haven't a clue if she even fancies me.

    So the problem is that I would like to ask her out on a date, but how do I tell her that without making it sound like we would be just meeting up as friends. Preferably without making a tool of myself !


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    She has been the one to suggest meeting up the last few times so I'm guessing that she fancies you. Why dont you text her and ask her outright if she wants to go on a date with you sometime? It's the only way you're going to move it forward from the friend zone you're currently stuck in.


  • #3
    Genghiz Cohen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,182 ✭✭✭Genghiz Cohen


    "Just you and me"
    This is a key line in these situations.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here, thanks to both of you for the advice, I honestly don't know what to do at the moment so I think I might leave it for a while and see what happens, after all she may be like this with all of her friends and I get on great with her so I really don't want to f*ck things up from a friendship point of view. Either that or I need to grow a pair ! :) Thanks again.


  • #5
    Tim06
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭Tim06


    i think ask her out. you've nothing to lose, as the first poster said, just text her, fancy going on a date to the cimema/ for a drink next week? its the only way you'll know!!


  • #6
    entropi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,730 ✭✭✭✭entropi


    OP! wrote: »
    Ok, Sorry for posting this but I haven't a clue what to do. I have known this girl for a little while now, we met through a work course, we have been out a couple of times together as friends (I think !) just to have a chat and catch up. We usually arrange to meet up by text and she generally suggests it. I am in my early 20's and I know it's sad but I have never asked anyone out on a date and I have no idea about signals so I haven't a clue if she even fancies me.

    So the problem is that I would like to ask her out on a date, but how do I tell her that without making it sound like we would be just meeting up as friends. Preferably without making a tool of myself !
    Well considering most "dates" are usually just chats and food+/drink you have nothing to lose here. Next time you are intending on heading out, ask her first and if it is by face to face chat, phone or text add at the end "Its a date then..." With luck she'll say yeah, its a date:)

    Being in your early 20's is no problem whatsoever by the way, all you need to ask her is a working set of vocal chords and her presence:D I say just go for it and remain confident you will get a date out of it. Confidence is best seen through someone's eyes or heard through their voice. I wish you good luck in getting a date:)


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