communication

nesbitt

Lately seem quite pixxed off at my BF's attitue to text communication. Wondered if any of you can shed light on this subject, don't want to discuss with my friends as they will trivialise this issue (all happily married etc.:cool:)...

Example of kind of issue I have been experiencing.

I seem to be expected to start text communication say mid morning, if I am busy or just don't really have anything newsy or quirky to say about my day thus far don't feel oblidged to text.

Lately if I don't start off the texts that day, will get a text say mid morning saying ah I missed your usual morning text and some newsy chat from himself. Fine you all say but...

The other evening we had arranged to meet up during the week after work. We had exchanged usual round of news, jokey texts during the day. I sent a text about 4pm replying to himself and then another at about 6ish with details of some info that thought he would be interested in etc.

Never got reply and then was just on my way out the door to meet at 10pm when I got a text along the lines, well if you still want to meet up I'm available. I just texted back grand see you in a few mins etc.

My other half was quite distant with me and seemed miffed that I had not texted him that evening with all I now presume would be 'looking forward to seeing you later etc'... Jeez I could expect that too you know :)

He said he was tired and I took the opportunity to comment was that why I got the petulant if your still interested text etc. He says well I had not had a text from you, I said well I sent that last two texts, (hate this petty stuff but had to retort was a bit exasperated) and you can text me too you know!!! (nicely by the way not all narky like). He says well I was in work till 9. I'm thinking well a text takes about a minute, wow do they work you that hard, but I just said no more.

What is the best way to avoid this crap with someone, hate this sort of pettyness and being made feel as if in some way I have to do all the texting, running etc. we don't phone except when we are both free at certain time of day and this suits us both so hence the reliance on texting.

So sorry about the long post, hate petty stuff but really like this guy...
Thanks for any input.

LegacyUser

Stop texting. It leads to so many unnecessary problems and petty ones as you say. My boyf and I used to text all the time and I stopped. Now we call each other much more and text less. I know its not always possible to call but we only text when we can't talk. It might mean less communication but its better and more meaningful communication.