wedding dress decisions

meisha

i think ive found "the" dress but it was in the 1st shop,i really felt amazing in it..it is 1850e but screams princess ive yet to show it to my mam as she is paying for it,yesterday we went to a different bridal shop and saw another beautifull dress for 800e i felt great in that too but it didnt hav the same affect as the 1st one,as my mother is paying i feel bad asking for nearly 2,000e for a dress ill wear once,my hubby to be has said we can work out the price with her if she cant pay all of it and whatever it takes he will make sure i get the dress of my dreams...i cant stand seeing anymore dresses as i fel it will get even more hard to make a decision!! my head is really wreaked!

Why not put 1,000 towards it yourself? You don't have to tell your mum how much the dress costs.

meisha

thats what i was going to do,but i cant help feel guilty that i could save money by buying the cheaper option,i could get the bridesmaid dresses too all for less then the cost of the more expensive one..

shoppergal

Have you looked online to see if you could get it cheaper from the States. My dress here was €1100 and ordered it from the US for €650.

Flump

i went out shopping last weekend for the first time to 'just look' at dresses and found mine. Granted i had been looking at it online since we got engaged and purposely went to a different place first, but as soon as i saw it, let alone tried it on, i knew it was MY dress.

i would suggest paying something towards it, if you love the dress as much as it seems, going for a different one won't feel the same.
as well as checking online for it, find out if the bridal store is having a sample sale anytime soon, also check other bridal stores to see if they have it at a different price, or if all else fails, be cheeky and see if there is any chance of a discount - i got 20% off mine!

meisha

meisha wrote: »

thats what i was going to do,but i cant help feel guilty that i could save money by buying the cheaper option,i could get the bridesmaid dresses too all for less then the cost of the more expensive one..

Hey, you can save money by buying a dress in Oasis as well or having a reception in the local pub!
Look, it's your wedding day. I'm not suggesting that you get into debt over it, but it is the ONE day you can get the dress you want without feeling guilty about it.
For every occasion for the rest of your life you can buy the cheaper option or the one on the sale rack. This time you don't have to.

People tell me you only wear your wedding dress once so why spend lots of money on it - well I think the photos of me in it will be doing the rounds for a few generations. So while I physically wear it once, I wear it forever in photos.

I ended up spending more than I bargained for on my dress and you know what? I don't regret a cent of it, I could afford it and I know if I'd bought a dress based solely on the price tag I would have regretted it.

meisha

thanks a million,i think ill go 4 it..i cant find it online i think the girl in the shop told a frw white lies and has put me off where to look,she said it was made by "farage" and the designer was polish..its not on the farage website :mad:

MariMel

Hi Meisha,

I;d go back to the shop for a second look and when you are trying it on get a sneaky look at the label and style number....even better if you have a camera phone with you then you dont have to remember them.
Go online and find the dress then source northern irish bridal shops and get another quote. I did this after falling in love with a dress I found in Kildare for €1550.....only to order it over the phone from a NI supplier for less than €800!!! They then contacted me when it arrived in the store and I collected it....I am still totally in love with the dress and even more so that i got it for half the price.
Good luck but dont lose hope yet.....have you tried the website of the store you were in? Find out what designers they stock and look on their websites.

mrsberries

Hi

I agree with the others - go for it!! I knew after trying my dress that it was the one and no other felt the same after that...I got it online for 600 yos cheaper (from RK Bridal in the States). Go and check the name again and then do your research....sure over on weddings online you may even get your dress second hand (if that wouldnt matter to you...) That wouldnt have bothered me as long as I had my dress. Ive spend 1k on the dress and while its not expensive compared to others it still is a lot of money but we are going abroad and having a small wedding so dont mind splurging...plus I paid for it myself

Shoes&Frocks

Hi Meisha, i empathize with you completely. I thought i had found my dream dress after just 3 shops, i left that last shop swearing that i would not be going elsewhere as this was 'the one'. Last weekend i went back to try on the dress again with my bridesmaids and yes, it was still 'the one'! until they made me try on another one. When i tried the second one on i became so confused as this made me feel like a princess too.
I am totally torn as to which one i want but the price is a huge factor. The first dress is €1400 and the second is €2300.
I know my sister really wants me to get the first one as it is quite 'quirky' and very me. But the second is just a dream dress, one i never thought i would be into but love.
For some reason, i feel like i'm letting my sister down by not getting the first one. I know its stupid, but thats how i feel.
Sorry, i think i've just realised which one i want by writing this. Its not about the money (obviously if you can afford it) or pleasing anyone else, its about what you want.
Sorry for rambling.
I think you should go for the second dress, put money towards it if you feel it necessary, but you will always regret (i think) your choice if you don't.

smelltheglove

Voice of experience, go with what you feel comfortable in. I loved one of the first dresses I tried on. I then went on to order another dress my bridesmaids loved and cancel and finally decided on a third dress and bought it, only to receive it and not feel right. So 8 weeks before the wedding I went back to the first shop and bought the dress off the rail.

It is one day, and on that day you should wear the dress you want to wear and not be wearing something else wondering if the first dress would have looked better.