me and other people

LegacyUser

I'm a 21 year old female student going in to 2nd year in Dublin. I am a very independent person. I moved from the country to Dublin and am in a very big course with a few hundred people in it, this makes it very difficult to get to know people. Although a few other people from my old school are in the same course as me, i moved into a house with 5 other girls as i was not hugely friendly with the other people from school and wanted my own independecne and to meet new people. The girls i was in the house with were fine but we never bonded or became close friends.

I always hung around during the day and went out at night with the people i went to school with and we became fairly good friends. this led in many ways to us all becoming dependent on each other and not making much other friends. back in june i started thinking bout living plans for the coming year. I thought that it was unlucky that i never bonded with the other girls and decided to move in with strangers again for the coming year with the hope that we will become friends. In many ways, i would not have minded moving in with my old school friends, its just that i feel that it would be too easy and if i always take the easy option i will not make other new friends.

Now that college is approaching, im very nervous about moving in with the new people and my old school friends have all made plans. i was put off about asking them could i move in with them as maybe there is an issue here but its not that i would be upset if they regected me, but it would bother me for them to think that im upset by their rejection and them thinking that i need them. i feel as if i have always done my own thing and was put off by the idea of spending all my time with these people. i think i have some sort of commitment issues maybe. when i was a child i lived a long distance away from the other kids in the school i went to so was always used to coming home in the evening and doing my own thing and not having to interact with other kids outside of school hours.

Don't get me wrong i am an outgoing, friendly, nice person who likes interacting with other people but also like my own quiet time. as i am going into 2nd year of a 3 year course i feeel as if this is my only year left to try and make new friends as in third year everybody is well settled in their friend group. i feel as if college should be about meeting new people and not always hanging around with people that u were friends with in school. if this year doesnet work out, i feel as if i will approach my old school friends bout sharing a house in my third and final year. i also dont want people to feel as if im a reject due to me moving in with strangers in 2nd year as i just want to meet new people. i think the appartment im moving into has some first years in it, does this matter as im a 2nd year?

does anybody understand the situation i am in?

any thoughts/opinions would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

kjl

you'll be fine, calm down, nothing to worry about