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Finding it very hard to go out post break up

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  • 28-08-2009 7:39pm
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    LegacyUser
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    Bit of background - ex gf broke up with me 6 months ago but theres only been no contact for just under 3 months. I put a stop to it, she would have carried on being 'friends'.

    Basically my problem is when I go out at the w-ends, I find it very upsetting and its almost like a chore. My ex gf and I did go out at w-ends but not very very often. I meet friends in town and I'm ok for an hour or so but then I feel very anxious and a few times I've even had to leave and go home early. And even the next day I feel like I've had a set back in my healing and I get very depressed.

    I feel like I have to get out there and get my life back together and meet people and try to not be a hermit staying in all the time but I just never expected to feel so down when I do go out and socialise and its carried forward to the next day.

    Has anyone else experienced this and can you please explain why I'm feeling this way?
    I'm still very in love with my ex gf but I'm trying to be strong and move on with my life.

    Any advice please.


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    SarahSassy
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    Are you drinking when you go out? If so, maybe you could go out without drinkng as it may help.


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    LegacyUser
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    SarahSassy wrote: »
    Are you drinking when you go out? If so, maybe you could go out without drinkng as it may help.

    OP Here

    I'm not a big drinker at all so I don't think this is a factor. I'd probably only have a couple of pints.

    Normally when I'm on my way into town I feel a bit down but i'm distracted when I meet my friends but then a wave of sadness comes over me after about an hour and I feel panicy and tight in my chest. It feels awful at the time.


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    SarahSassy
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    I have been through it and it does pass. The worst thing you could do is to stop going out... Keep it up and it will get easier. Good luck


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    sunshine007
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    Are you feeling down all of the time or just when your doing thing you's would normally do as a couple? Did you feel like this before this lady was in your life? why did you guy finish? Sorry - just trying to get a bit of background....


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