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Stuck in a rut

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  • 27-08-2009 8:56pm
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    Elevelyn
    Registered Users Posts: 337 ✭✭


    I have been with my BF for nearly 2 years now, he is the sweetest most caring man i have every been with, i have never felt more comfortable with anyone and i know he feels the same about me. The thing is that we seem to be stuck in the same routine every day - he comes home from work, i cook dinner, we watch tv, chat and look at crap on the internet then go to bed and maybe have sex. I know that we really love eachother and stuff and we can talk about anything, does anyone have any advice on how we can spice things up in any way?


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    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    Walks ? Theatre ? socialise with friends ? invite people to dinner ? Gigs ?

    Also do stuff separately ... go out with the girls - him with the boys. Clubs/societies/hobbies/classes. A healthy relationship needs fresh air and a little separateness.

    No two people can entertain each other 100% of the time or the relationship will dry up like an old prune :confused:

    All the best


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    Elevelyn
    Registered Users Posts: 337 ✭✭Elevelyn


    Thanks great ideas, we do socalise with friends and go out apart, not stuck in eachothers pockets, think were just going through a rough patch, lost my job and cant find another so not much money to do everything we'd like to but im afraid he is going to get bored with us!


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    thefeatheredcat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,282 ✭✭✭thefeatheredcat


    Evelyn,

    I could be reading too much into this...but by last post you said you lost your job and difficulty in getting another and think he may get bored with the relationship? I would think that perhaps there's something else there, an insecurity that if you don't find a job he's no longer interested in you?

    In any case, I think if you've both fallen into a routine with eachother, then you need to shake the routine up a bit (even varying the times of day in which you do things can help), but I think you should talk to your OH about what you're feeling.

    Don't get too bogged down with not having a job or feeling tired of looking and not getting anywhere... lots of people are in the same boat, so you're not alone on that.


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