College worries, need help

LegacyUser

Hello
I got offered 2 college places, a college place in my home town and a college place in Dublin. The courses are kind of similar.
The thing against the local college was that it was too local, I've no friends here, I live at home and I'm bored with the scenery. In favour of it was that I'd be saving money and could update my car and I enjoy living with my parents again.
So I chose Dublin. In favour of Dublin is the change of scenery; against it is the cost, the rental scene and being away from home.
Now I've nothing but doubt about Dublin and I'm so anxious about it I can't sleep. I feel as though my family are losing hope with me (I'm late 20's and they've given me the 'where are you going with your life' speech twice).
I don't know what i'm hoping for here, probably just to vent because it's preoccupying my mind day and night and the registration day is in a few weeks.
What would you do or think?
Help!

Wooder79

Hi Daisy,

My gut feeling reading your post is that if you can afford to move to Dublin you should. The thoughts of any upheaval like that are naturally scary, but moving away from your current environment will give you a chance to examine yourself, find more independence, and help find "where you're going with your life".

It will also give you the opportunity to make a far wider circle of friends than you perhaps would at home (presuming your in a town rather than a city) It will also open up new experiences to you, with different scenery and activities, which after you overcome your initial fear, I think you'll find you want more and more of.

Go for it and best of luck!

parker kent

I moved to Dublin last year for a post grad and I thought I was going to collapse with fear. I will admit that the first week or two was difficult (missing home, making friends etc) but once that was passed I loved it. You will not be able to describe the feeling you get when you move up and start to enjoy the experience. It gave me much more confidence and belief in myself. Previously I thought I wouldn't be able for it but taking the plunge is the first step. You have made that step so now you are just a few weeks away from feeling very happy! Enjoy it and make the best of it. Make new friends, do new things and get the most out of college.

Edit: What you are feeling is perfectly natural and normal. Any big change like you are making will do that to you but stick it out. You will love it!

thefeatheredcat

OP,

I think that if you're bored with what you have in your environment then you need to shake up your life.

Moving to Dublin could be the best thing that has happened. It sounds like you just need the reassurance that you're doing the right thing and moving to a new environment takes courage.

Cost of living, renting etc in Dublin is daunting but you have to make the best possible choice for yourself. There's no guarantee that you'll be happy in Dublin but that's completely up to yourself, but hard to predict if it's the right choice unless you give it a try.

And if the worst happens in Dublin, I'm sure that you can always move back home. The thing is to go out there and try it and see how it goes... and nobody will think the worse if it doesn't work out for you.

Consider if you did take the course at home - will you be happy or would you feel like you've missed a great opportunity?

In any case, you could always transfer back!

Best of luck