met a girl on holiday

jj99

Am 24 years old. Was in Spain on holiday, and for a whole week I spent time with one particular French girl. We spent hours and hours talking and really bonded and got on well together. she told me that if I lived in France she would want me as a boyfriend. Now we never kissed but her friend told me she doesnt have many boyfriends and is very cautious.

While I was there we agreed to keep in contact and said we would visit each other. We both said that we liked each other also.

When I returned, I emailed her as it was her birthday.....three weeks later and I still have not heard from this girl at all. Any thoughts????

Should I email her again??

Thanks for your help

Kimia

Its been 3 weeks dude. She has no interest.

I'm sorry because it sounded like you really liked her. She probably liked you too at the time but obviously she's not into LDR's.

Really really don't email her again.

prinz

Summer lovin' had me a blast... sorry jj, sounds like she's just not that into you. I wouldn't email again.

pwd

yup she was on holiday.
you should have kissed her when she said when she said she'd like you as a bf if you were in france. Can't think of too many contexts where that doesn't translate as "kiss me." Ignoring cues like that with a girl you like doesn't impress them.

jj99

Im not interested in a long distance relationship as im sure she isn't either. I just want to stay in contact with her/hear from her. Maybe she didnt get my last email? Maybe she has the wrong email address for me???

I obviously really wanted to kiss her too, but despite staying up till 8am each of the last three nights, it just felt the opportunity wasn't there for some reason. Perhaps, I should have told her, "I want to kiss you/Can I kiss you?"

VaioCruiser

jj99 wrote: »

Im not interested in a long distance relationship as im sure she isn't either. I just want to stay in contact with her/hear from her. Maybe she didnt get my last email? Maybe she has the wrong email address for me???

I obviously really wanted to kiss her too, but despite staying up till 8am each of the last three nights, it just felt the opportunity wasn't there for some reason. Perhaps, I should have told her, "I want to kiss you/Can I kiss you?"

If if if if .... life is too short to be iffing around OP

You said it, and it wouldn't be the first time. She may not have even received your email !! ...

Can you write to her physically ? or text or call her ? If so then do it.

if not then I am afraid ... move on .... and get on with life.

All the best.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,
Call her bluff to get a straight answer. If you know what City or Department in France she is from , then look up nearest place you could be flying into. Do your research first. Then e-mail her saying that you are going on a break to France and would be near by and would love to meet up. Be careful, don't say exactly when.That will give her a get out of jail card to tell you she will be away, on Hols ,at family wedding,visiting grandmere etc.
If she replies then she is at least half interested in meeting an old mate, if not then it's fini my friend accept it . If she does reply then you can always delay your pretend travel plans due to other commitments, at least you will get a clearer idea of where you stand.

jj99

This girl was like no-one I've ever met and I felt that she was developing feelings for me too. Maybe if timing and barriers were different. Who knows?

She also told me that she likes to play games to know what people are really like too. I think I might send her a facebook in maybe 1 week asking her did she receive my previous email.......

.....Nothing to lose by asking I think...If she reply's great, If not, sh*t happens.

.......I think I also need to get out and find the Irish version of this girl, hopefully she's out there somewhere:pac:

Thanks for your replies, any other comments greatly appreciated.

Firetrap

No. Don't bother trying to make contact again. If she was interested she would have replied to your email or made contact with you either by email or Facebook. It was a classic holiday romance - nice memories but a transient thing. Don't get too tied up in whether you should've kissed her or not. It would have ended up with the same result.

Chucky the tree

jj99 wrote: »

She also told me that she likes to play games to know what people are really like too.

She sounds like a real keeper alright. :rolleyes:

petethebrick

Firetrap wrote: »

No. Don't bother trying to make contact again. If she was interested she would have replied to your email or made contact with you either by email or Facebook. It was a classic holiday romance - nice memories but a transient thing. Don't get too tied up in whether you should've kissed her or not. It would have ended up with the same result.

I agree with not tyring to contact her again.
But in my books a holiday romance involves actually scoring with the girl.

Come on OP take a step back. Have more respect for yourself than to be chasing some girl who lives in another country and who obviously isn't into you. She sounds like right tease to be honest. Move on and up

VaioCruiser

petethebrick wrote: »

I agree with not tyring to contact her again.
But in my books a holiday romance involves actually scoring with the girl.

Come on OP take a step back. Have more respect for yourself than to be chasing some girl who lives in another country and who obviously isn't into you. She sounds like right tease to be honest. Move on and up

I find this really juvenile advice. 'scoring' ? please !!

And why on earth is there any question of self respect ? It is a perfectly good thing to fall for a girl in another country. And there is no proof she has even received his email....

Jeeez

thefeatheredcat

jj99 wrote: »

. she told me that if I lived in France she would want me as a boyfriend.

Would you honestly uproot yourself and move to France for someone you met on holiday?

IMO you're far better off forgetting her. Accept the fact you haven't heard from her (would could be for any number of reasons) and just appreciate the time you shared with another holiday maker.

I wouldn't even think about it any further or read anything more into it. Move on with your life and be realistic on this situation.

Should you hear from her in the coming weeks, re-evaluate the situation.