Would it be ok to wear this dress to a wedding

Maclyn

It looks darker than it is in the photo and the roses on the bottom are a colour of pink/gold organza. I have got the same pink and gold organza cover up on top. Would it be ok to wear?

thecross1

no

thecross1

is that u you?
u would really fall out with the bride

buzz55

As a guest or as the bride?

The Big Red Button

No, in my opinion. Seriously you really shouldn't wear anything approaching white/cream/ivory to a wedding. Almost every wedding I've been to, just one person does so, and they're always the talk of the place - and not in a good way!

emma82

I looked at this dress as well for a wedding I had coming up- asked one of girls from work whose family own a bridal wear shop & she said NO WAY!!!! Said that colour could be similar to brides dress as its a current trend this year. I steered well clear! Bought a different KM dress instead

daingeanrob

definately not!

amdublin

Hello Miss Upstager.

No.

Toots

If you're the bride then go for it, it'd be a nice quirky take on the traditional wedding dress.

If you're not the bride then under no circumstances wear it. It's sorta bad form to wear white/cream etc to a wedding, it can look like you're trying to upstage the bride.

Malari

I'd wear it, it's fab. Most brides are not to be confused with members of the audience wearing the same colour and as for upstaging, there hasn't been one wedding I've been to where there weren't at least half a dozen people who looked better dressed than the bride.

aviendha

seriously.. is it not possible for people to avoid white/cream for just ONE day?! you can wear that any other day of the week... and the dress comes in different colours, so fair enough if you particularly like the roses etc, go for a different colour.

I just it's bad form cos you KNOW it's risqué (why else would you be on a forum asking about it?!).

It's not about being confused with the bride, or being better dressed.. it's KNOWING the tradition and giving it 2 fingers, when really, you're there to celebrate with the bride!!

RentDayBlues

I'm wearing a white dress to a wedding next week - to be honest unless the bride is an absolute bridezilla then she wont care! If the dress suits you go for it!

cathysworld

Who cares, it looks great so wear it.. Life's too short to worry about this kins of sh1t, the bride traditionally wore white to symbolise her purity/virginity :pac: this is hardly the case any more! I think most people will know which one is the bride or else why wud they be at the wedding!

Whispered

RentDayBlues wrote: »

I'm wearing a white dress to a wedding next week - to be honest unless the bride is an absolute bridezilla then she wont care! If the dress suits you go for it!

Oh really? I'm absolutely relaxed about my wedding, I don't want pressies, want as few people there as possible, I couldn't care less about flowers & the meal will be a BBQ, I just want to be married. I think I'm pretty far from a bridezilla, but if someone turned up at my wedding in white I'd be very pissed off. It's rude, attention seeking and just screams of "I'm jealous of the bride so look at me". Fair enough if you think the bride would be wrong to think less of you for wearing white, but all of the guests will think it's pathetic and sad too. Most weddings have at least one, and they always always have people looking at them in pity, nobody will look and think "wow she looks great".

cathysworld wrote: »

Who cares, it looks great so wear it.. Life's too short to worry about this kins of sh1t, the bride traditionally wore white to symbolise her purity/virginity :pac: this is hardly the case any more! I think most people will know which one is the bride or else why wud they be at the wedding!

Thats ridic and selfish, it's a day that the bride traditionally wears white, who gives a sh1t why the tradition is there. You may as well wear bright yellow to a funeral using your logic.

cathysworld

So you're really mega relaxed about your wedding but if someone dares wear white/cream you'll flip your lid?!
Your logic means you follow a tradition when you dont give a sh1t about what it's there for..!

Maclyn

Thanks for all the replies.

Malari

Maclyn wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies.

Have you made a decision on whether to wear it?

CurlieSue

NO WAY OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :eek: :eek: :eek:

RentDayBlues

I asked this question of a girl I know who is getting married in a couple of weeks and her answer was "no, why would I care".

I think if all you want is to get married then the color of the guests clothes should not be a concern at all, all eyes will be on the bride anyway

kt217

i agree with amdublin i think the bride would not behappy with you

Maclyn

My decision was that I just didn't bother buying it.

It is not that cream colour that is in the photo, it is more a biege with peach/goldy/biegey coloured roses when you see it for real.

I never knew there would be so many people against cream or white for a wedding.

I got married a while back and my best friend wore the most beautiful cream dress, it was stunning, she looked great and felt great in it. It didn't bother me one bit, I never even thought of it like that at all.

tatli_lokma

two guests wore cream/off white to my wedding. Didn't bother me in the slightest - don't think anyone was trying to upstage me, and don't think anyone confused them for bridesmaids, or the bride! Slight over reaction from some I think. I would be more upset if someone rocked up without having made the effort, or wearing depressing black like a funeral, or jeans or something. That would be more offensive to me.

Whispered

cathysworld wrote: »

So you're really mega relaxed about your wedding but if someone dares wear white/cream you'll flip your lid?!
Your logic means you follow a tradition when you dont give a sh1t about what it's there for..!

the tradition of a white dress has nothing to do with virginity at all. Queen Victoria chose to wear white because she wanted to convey wealth and class--most people didn't have the money to buy one ornate dress that they would only wear once in their life. So really the dress represents a once in a lifetime day, something you will never do again and a dress you will never wear again.

The fact that someone, knowing that its considered bad form to wear white, still goes ahead and does would bother me. It's one day, one party that you shouldn't wear white to, the accepted tradition is that nobody but the bride wears white. The fact that that one day, when traditionally white shouldn't be worn, you insist on wearing it, really speaks volumes IMO.

Basicially, social etiquette says that you don't wear white as a wedding guest, so I would have respect for the people who asked me to the wedding and the manners to not wear it.

Yoda08

helena.ryan wrote: »

the tradition of a white dress has nothing to do with virginity at all. Queen Victoria chose to wear white because she wanted to convey wealth and class--most people didn't have the money to buy one ornate dress that they would only wear once in their life. So really the dress represents a once in a lifetime day, something you will never do again and a dress you will never wear again.

The fact that someone, knowing that its considered bad form to wear white, still goes ahead and does would bother me. It's one day, one party that you shouldn't wear white to, the accepted tradition is that nobody but the bride wears white. The fact that that one day, when traditionally white shouldn't be worn, you insist on wearing it, really speaks volumes IMO.

Basicially, social etiquette says that you don't wear white as a wedding guest, so I would have respect for the people who asked me to the wedding and the manners to not wear it.

+1 on tradition of white conveyed wealth not purity
just as well, eh!

cathysworld

IMO the most important thing about your wedding day should be that you are marrying the person you love not what colour dress your guests are wearing. We'll just have to agree to disagree

deebee08

One of my cousins wore white to my wedding....didnt bother me, i wore white to a different cousins wedding...she didnt care so go for it!!!! For god's sake, who's goin to be looking at anyone but the bride that day anyway and no guest is going to be mistaken for being the bride. Sorry if this offends but i think a girl must be a pretty insecure bride to care if someone else wears white....I dont even remember what anyone wore to mine except what my mother wore!!

girl24

Even if the bride didn't care, there would still be loads of other people whispering about you so in my opinion its not worth it.

Whispered

You can try to spin it whatever way you like. So I don't care about who I marry and I'm insecure. :rolleyes: Wearing white to a wedding is ignorant. End of story. If you don't think so, and even the bride doesn't think so, the majority of people still do so wouldn't it be easier to just not wear it for that one single day, or are you too caught up in yourself to care about manners?

It is not about looking at the bride or upstaging the bride. It's about simple manners. Have enough manners and social etiquette to wear one of the many many colours that are traditionally acceptable at a wedding.

There is a thread on this in the ladies lounge, and an overwhelming majority agree that wearing white to a wedding is rude.

lala stone

Maclyn wrote: »

My decision was that I just didn't bother buying it.

It is not that cream colour that is in the photo, it is more a biege with peach/goldy/biegey coloured roses when you see it for real.

I never knew there would be so many people against cream or white for a wedding.

I got married a while back and my best friend wore the most beautiful cream dress, it was stunning, she looked great and felt great in it. It didn't bother me one bit, I never even thought of it like that at all.

Is that dress from Karen millen? if so my friend actually wore it a few weeks ago and no said anything!!

John Mason

i shall be wearing red to my wedding by everyones logic here none of the wedding guests should wear red - is that correct? so should i put that on the invitation?

what a load of tosh - OP if you like the dress wear it

RoisinBelle

I was at a wedding recently and there was a girl wearing this. I thought it was a bit mean...its a bit bride-ish! I think only the bride should wear a cream, white or champagne dress!

Whispered

irishbird wrote: »

i shall be wearing red to my wedding by everyones logic here none of the wedding guests should wear red - is that correct? so should i put that on the invitation?

what a load of tosh - OP if you like the dress wear it

No thats not correct at all. I'll try this once more. It is NOT the fact that it is the same colour as the brides dress. It is the fact that it is considered rude to wear white as a guest to a wedding and people should have the manners and self respect to follow tradition, whether they agree with the tradition or not, for that one, single, day. Doing something which may be considered rude, wether you believe it rude or not, shows a lot of disrespect for the people around you.

Similarly, if I was to go to a chinese wedding, I wouldn't wear red as that is their tradition, the bride wears red therefore, the guests shouldn't. Surely, thinking of the bride and doing your best to respect her is a good thing, no?

amdublin

lala stone wrote: »

Is that dress from Karen millen? if so my friend actually wore it a few weeks ago and no said anything!!

I imagine no one said anything to her face but that there was plenty of talk behind her back.

Saucey-Susie

ive seen, from pics, a few people wear that dress in that colour to weddings and its not as ivory/cream as it looks there.

how close is the bride to you? if she is a very good friend, maybe go for something that really contrasts with what she is wearing

Enii

irishbird wrote: »

i shall be wearing red to my wedding by everyones logic here none of the wedding guests should wear red - is that correct? so should i put that on the invitation?

what a load of tosh - OP if you like the dress wear it

There are certain societal rules regarding clothes that should be worn in certain situations.....

If you liked a certain "Boob tube" would you wear it to a job interview?

White should not be worn to a wedding.

Redpunto

Nope - dont wear it, keep it for another special occasion and now you have an excuse to buy yourself another dress:D

olaola

I'm with Helena Ryan on this one, I think it's rude to wear white/cream to a wedding. It looks like a great dress for the races though!