Life passing me by

LegacyUser

Does anybody else feel that life is passing them by? I am in my 20's and have never done anything, Nothing of note. I have never been in a relationship, have hardly any friends, havent done any travelling, have an average job. I guess it feels like I am in a rut and I dont know how to get out of it. I dont know how to meet new people, God knows when the last time I made a friend was!

I am reminded of a quote from a film that went something along the lines of:

"15 minutes feels like an eternity and then you blink and 2 years have passed".

I dont know why I read this forum, I feel sad when I read people having problems with relationships etc. How lucky you are to have a relationship!

rustynutz

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Does anybody else feel that life is passing them by? I am in my 20's and have never done anything, Nothing of note. I have never been in a relationship, have hardly any friends, havent done any travelling, have an average job. I guess it feels like I am in a rut and I dont know how to get out of it. I dont know how to meet new people, God knows when the last time I made a friend was!

I am reminded of a quote from a film that went something along the lines of:

"15 minutes feels like an eternity and then you blink and 2 years have passed".

I dont know why I read this forum, I feel sad when I read people having problems with relationships etc. How lucky you are to have a relationship!

What are you interested in? Everyone has something that there passionate about,find out what it is and start doing it and that will give you confidence and make you more interesting to other people

mollybawn

I felt like you when I was in my early twenties, - then I met my husband, had three kids, worked fulltime, helped to look after my Mam until she died, and thirty years passed in a flash, with no time to think about what I was or wasn't achieving. Now my kids are grown-up and gone, my Mam is gone, and I'm retiring from my job in a month. So I'm back feeling a bit like you again!
Some suggestions, (- these are the things I'm thinking of considering): -Join a hillwalking group and try a beginners' walk with them some nice Sunday soon; Volunteer with the Simon Community (or similiar group if you live down the country); Join an easy-going musical or drama society, -if you cant sing or act they are always glad of gophers. And I might even think about make-up classes to give me a bit of a lift and some confidence. Who knows, maybe this time next year we will both be social butterflies surrounded by friends and admirers!!!!;)

LegacyUser

I'm in the same situation as you, however I have plenty of friends yet still find that lifes empty, I'm currently saving money and hope to have enough next easter to just **** off and start inter railing alone.

LegacyUser

It really upsets me when I read all these threads from people in their twenties who feel so hopeless and fed up with life. I was like that too and left life slip me by because of it. Now I'm in my forties and have realised how short life is & that it's there to be enjoyed. I'd love to have those years back again to live my life the way I should have & I'm trying to make up for lost time now! I suppose what I'm trying to say is make the effort to get out there and find something that excites you and helps you enjoy life. Otherwise you'll find that 10 or 20 years have passed by (& they do pass by very fast!) and you'll have done nothing except exist. Sorry if this sounds cliched but it's the truth!

LegacyUser

im in a similar situation myself, and by responding on here wont help me either. I dont have many close friends and have no social life but i understand why its like that because i moved cities with work. I want to socialise with people but just dont have enough close friends which is quite sad but i cant really do anything about that as the friends i do have are useless and dont socilaise at all so im kind of wasting my time with them i think.

Anyway i have accepted that now at this stage but i also think life is passing me by. I am a normal person and if you know me u would think i have plenty of close friends but thats not the case.its a very hard situation to get out of actually because i try to socialise and interact with new people every chance i get but it is difficult when the friends you have are unsociable.

I hate sitting in saturday nights and when i am out i really enjoy myself but just dont seem to get out enough. There should really be some kind of a club or something for people like this to meet up because from looking on boards, there does seem to be a lot of people in there mid twenties not happy with there current social situation.

LegacyUser

"I hate sitting in saturday nights and when i am out i really enjoy myself but just dont seem to get out enough. There should really be some kind of a club or something for people like this to meet up because from looking on boards, there does seem to be a lot of people in there mid twenties not happy with there current social situation. "

I know how you feel. I dread people asking me in work on the Monday how my weekend was and did I go out. It results in me making nights out up. I agree, there does seem to be quite a few people in or situation.

"I felt like you when I was in my early twenties, - then I met my husband, had three kids, worked fulltime, helped to look after my Mam until she died, and thirty years passed in a flash, with no time to think about what I was or wasn't achieving. Now my kids are grown-up and gone, my Mam is gone, and I'm retiring from my job in a month. So I'm back feeling a bit like you again! "

But at least you can look back at the last 30 years and see that you have achieved a lot even if you feel the time went quickly.

"It really upsets me when I read all these threads from people in their twenties who feel so hopeless and fed up with life. I was like that too and left life slip me by because of it. Now I'm in my forties and have realised how short life is & that it's there to be enjoyed. I'd love to have those years back again to live my life the way I should have & I'm trying to make up for lost time now! I suppose what I'm trying to say is make the effort to get out there and find something that excites you and helps you enjoy life. Otherwise you'll find that 10 or 20 years have passed by (& they do pass by very fast!) and you'll have done nothing except exist. Sorry if this sounds cliched but it's the truth!"

Solid advice but it is easy to write, harder to do as I think you know

we'llallhavetea_old

hi op,
what do you enjoy doing?? if we knew that maybe we could come up with better ideas for you? as a previous poster mentioned, inter-railing or some travel could be brilliant. absolutely terrifying, but life changing!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Have to agree with the travelling. Join couchsurfing.org - it's great for finding social events in the cities you go to - and you meet a much more varied group of people than the pub.

LegacyUser

hey OP I was like you too in my early twenties...so I decided to do something. I planned a round the world trip by myself..I was 24 then...I have some amazing memories and I made some really cool friends that I still keep in touch with. Yeah it was scary leaving home and a secure job and going into the unknown but think about the alternative..sitting around just existing and feeling nothing. You are the only one that can alter the way you live...you can do anything if you put your mind to it. I felt like my life just dwindled by for many years in my twenties..it can so easily happen. What I would suggest is setting goals, personal goals or things you want to achieve in your life. write them down and then do your utmost to carry them through. then you will start to feel alive and start living the life you want!!!

LegacyUser

"hi op,
what do you enjoy doing?? if we knew that maybe we could come up with better ideas for you? as a previous poster mentioned, inter-railing or some travel could be brilliant. absolutely terrifying, but life changing! "

Films, books, sports

"Have to agree with the travelling. Join couchsurfing.org - it's great for finding social events in the cities you go to - and you meet a much more varied group of people than the pub. "

I have heard that couch surfing is good alright

"hey OP I was like you too in my early twenties...so I decided to do something. I planned a round the world trip by myself..I was 24 then...I have some amazing memories and I made some really cool friends that I still keep in touch with. Yeah it was scary leaving home and a secure job and going into the unknown but think about the alternative..sitting around just existing and feeling nothing. You are the only one that can alter the way you live...you can do anything if you put your mind to it. I felt like my life just dwindled by for many years in my twenties..it can so easily happen. What I would suggest is setting goals, personal goals or things you want to achieve in your life. write them down and then do your utmost to carry them through. then you will start to feel alive and start living the life you want!!! "

It is comforting to know that others felt the same. I would be very wary of leaving my job. But I might be able to travel around it. I gotta do something, cant keep going on "only existing"