Girls opinion

LegacyUser

OK so I'm 30 years of age now and a couple of years ago I was diagnosed with moderate OSA (Obstructive Sleep Apnea) and since then I have to use a CPAP (http://koifishcommunications.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/cpap3_small.jpg machine) to sleep. The machine makes practically no noise and the noise it does make is quite similar to putting a sea shell to your ear, it's quite soothing.

Now I won't die or anything if I don't use this machine, however by not using this machine I do suffer a little. Imaging how you would be after only 3 hours sleep in a night, well that's how I am when I don't use the machine. A couple of days is OK, but after that you do tend to get quite tired and have a short fuse.

So my question; ladies how would you feel if you found out that someone you were had just started a relationship with had to use a machine like this to get a good nights sleep?

I'm looking for frank and honest answers, lets leave the whole "accept you as you are to one side for this PI".


Thanks.

CPAP man.

LegacyUser

I wouldn't worry about it if I were you, you have to look after yourself. If a potential girlfriend was annoyed about the machine, well then she really wouldn't be worth the bother.

Personally, I'd rather be with a man who's all nice and relaxed after a good nights sleep than be with a man who's cranky after a few nights of broken sleep : ).

LegacyUser

Hey OP,

don't worry about the machine! My bf needs the mashine aswell, he was really shy and embarresed about it at the beginning, he thought i would find it weird. Honestly, the machine doesn't bother me at all, it even helps me to fall asleep, cause the noise as you said is like putting a sea shell over your ear, very relaxing! I had to push him at the beginning to use the mashine around me, after a few times he was ok with it. We even have nicknames for the machine now! Really, no problem at all.

Eve_Dublin

Honestly? I wouldn't give a damn and I'm not just saying that OP. As long as we could do everything else in bed first then I wouldn't care if you adorned a tutu and a pair of fairy wings...I'd still cuddle up to you.

My friend had a situation a bit like yours...she had a fake front tooth which she had to take out at night and put in a glass of water. She started going out with her boyfriend in her early twenties (in our late twenties now, they're together 7 years) and she was terrified of taking her tooth out in front of her OH in case he'd be freaked out and turned off by it...the longer she left it, the worse it got. Luckily my friend is a funny girl so it became a running joke between the two of us and she kept saying, "I'll do it tonight...tonight is the night I'll tell him about my tooth!!"...it was pretty hilarious thinking back...this went on for months...she had to wait 'till he fell asleep every night before she took her tooth out until she finally took it out one night without saying anything...just took it out in front of him and popped it into a glass...this was after about 3 months of going out. Of course at this stage he was falling in love with her and although he got a bit of a shock (!), he didn't care but wondered why she never told him from the beginning...he wasn't going out with her because of her gorgeous front teeth, it was the whole package. If someone likes you, they like you regardless of any minor technical difficulties.

Rambling there but as long as you explain to the girl the first time you sleep with her, don't make a big deal out of it (it's only a big deal if you make a big deal out of it...this applies to most things), any girl worth her salt won't give a damn.

SheRa

if i was going out with you as long as you mentioned it before we got into bed id be fine with it.

but i could see how some immature girl and or one that wasn't really into one might freak out. but tbh honest that says more about them than you.

apologies for lack of caps. can only type with one hand at the moment and caps is awkward.

Movershaker

Wouldn't bother me at all OP, just don't make a big deal about it, because it's really not. Can't imagine that many people would be bothered by it to be honest. As a girl I freak out about a new guy waking up and seeing me without makeup! Sounds totally stupid I know but everyone has their hangups right?

Ickle Magoo

Personally, it wouldn't bother me. I know people who have to take insulin, wear feet splints, wear glasses, nasal strips, take inhalers, etc, etc - a CPAP machine might have me slightly concerned that my bf had a serious medical condition but I can't see any issues beyond that.

amdublin

Wouldn't bother me. But at the same time I wouldn't go whipping it out straight away the first night.

Katgurl

amdublin wrote: »

Wouldn't bother me. But at the same time I wouldn't go whipping it out straight away the first night.

why not?

OP, I wouldn't bat an eyelid, pretty sure none of my friends would either. i might find it a bit funny.

Wurly

CPAP man wrote: »

"accept you as you are to one side for this PI".

But I WOULD accept you as you are. I cannot see what the big deal would be tbh.

Aisling(",)

Wouldnt bother me in the slightest.
Its really only something small,like its not even that strange.:)

shellyboo

Not offputting at all, OP... as long as you explain it to the girl, I honestly can't see *anyone* having an issue with it.

LegacyUser

@ amdublin: why would you have a problem with the machine the firth night you would be toghter? doesn't make any sense to me!

We just have to do other things firth before he puts the machine on, but I still snuggle up on my bf when he is wearing the mashine! The funny thing to me is that my bf can't really talk anymore when he is wearing the machine, so sometimes i just start to talk, talk and talk the sec he puts the machine on that kinda annoys him as he can't say anything back (yes he is actually one of the guys who loves to talk, lucky me!) but he knows i just do it to tease him a little .
The machine really doesn't bother at all and I don't see how it could bother anybody.
As I said it even helps me to fall asleep, which I think its great! I know it looks a little weird and thats I guess why you are worried about it. But seriously don't worry about it! My bf and I are just in our early 20, your a few years older so the women should not have any weird thoughts about it!

Darthhoob

wouldn't bother me, if the sound helps you sleep it'll probably help the woman sleep too.

though if you snore ..............

we'llallhavetea_old

well op, my dad has sleep apnea, so i know only too well the side effects if its not used!!
it absolutely would not put me off in the slightest, its a very quiet machine (until its being taken off!!) and it wouldn't affect anyones sleep thats right beside you!

its not like youre gonna have sex with it on! or maybe.....