Weddings abroad. Gift.

Quality

Hi just looking for peoples views on what they would give when they are attending a wedding abroad.

Is it expected to give a present when you have to go to the expense of travelling to attend the wedding?

What are everyones view on this.

toadfly

Hi, I went to a wedding in Malta this year, it cost us a lot to go and thought maybe we didnt need to give anything. We ended up giving €100, it was my boyfriends cousin and they are quite close but personally I dont think you should have to give an awful lot.

If you cant afford it then there really isnt a need. I suppose it delends how close you are to the couple.

prinz

I'm getting married abroad at the end of the year and told everyone that gift's weren't needed. I understand how much effort and expense it will be so tbh I wouldn't want nor expect anything off people. It also would depend on the reasons for going abroad, if the wedding is abroad just because the bride and groom fancied a wedding abroad then absoultely not in my book. If the wedding is abroad for a particular reason, as in my case - wifey to be is a foreign and getting married in her home country, then it's slightly different but personally I told people not to bother.

bluebell1

am also getting married abroad soon and don'e expect gifts from anyone. This is a choice hubby to be and i have made and the expense of getting there is enough for people in our opinion.

Sizzler

Quality wrote: »

Hi just looking for peoples views on what they would give when they are attending a wedding abroad.

Is it expected to give a present when you have to go to the expense of travelling to attend the wedding?

What are everyones view on this.

Theres a recession on :eek: Dont go, give them €200 and spend the rest of the money you would have spent going there on something nice for yourselves

*joke

esharknz

We've told people not to give us gifts as our wedding is overseas.
I know some will end up giving us something as I attended their weddings overseas, but I'm not going to be expecting people to show up with gifts.

hunnymonster

Related to the same topic (but not directly answering the same question); it's a common misconception that it's hugely more expensive to go to a wedding abroad rather than one in Ireland. We actually did the maths and for 90% of our guests it was cheaper for them to come abroad (package deal) rather than travel to the other end of the country (where we now live) (car & 1 night in hotel). That's before you factor in things like us being able to afford an open bar abroad which we never could here. The only downside we could see is that people generally don't want to come away for 2 days so they are eating into their holidays to attend. We did choose a date though where people can have an extended long weekend for only 1 days holidays (9-5'ers, we have quite a few teachers not taking any holidays and shift workers which we can never suit)


Ok, with that said, I can see two points of view on this. I would hate to think anyone coming to our wedding felt "obliged" to bring a gift but for me personally, I could never bring myself to attend someone's wedding without a gift.

Quality

I personally feel that I have to give a gift, but others in my group of friends believe that their presence is their present.


This wedding is costing a lot more than if it was a wedding in Ireland, also because it is midweek, the precious annual leave is being used up.

connundrum

We're getting married abroad next month, and what we've found is that people are delighted to go (and to use their annual leave) as they're seeing it as a great holiday week avec une mighty session in the middle.

It is costing our guests approximately the same to go abroad as it would to stay at home i.e.

Ireland - €160pps for 2 nights B&B in 3* Hotel in Cavan, excluding other costs. (I chose Cavan as a friend is getting married there a week after we're getting married abroad)

Abroad - €160pps for flights (incl taxes) and 4* Hotel for 2 nights B&B excluding other costs.

I haven't told guests one way or another what to do about gifts, as I believe that people will do what they want or can afford regardless.

Quality

connundrum wrote: »

We're getting married abroad next month, and what we've found is that people are delighted to go (and to use their annual leave) as they're seeing it as a great holiday week avec une mighty session in the middle.

It is costing our guests approximately the same to go abroad as it would to stay at home i.e.

Ireland - €160pps for 2 nights B&B in 3* Hotel in Cavan, excluding other costs. (I chose Cavan as a friend is getting married there a week after we're getting married abroad)

Abroad - €160pps for flights (incl taxes) and 4* Hotel for 2 nights B&B excluding other costs.

I haven't told guests one way or another what to do about gifts, as I believe that people will do what they want or can afford regardless.

My flights alone cost €180, not including the rate for the villa or the car hire!!

You got a good deal!!:)

connundrum

Quality wrote: »

My flights alone cost €180, not including the rate for the villa or the car hire!!

You got a good deal!!:)

Wedding is on a Wednesday, flights are into Alicante (served by Aer Lingus & Ryanair), we're collecting all guests as they arrive.

It is just working out handy like.

McCABE1

I have to say that weddings are flippin expensive anyway but have to agree with other posters, you cant really attend without giving a gift. I know a girl getting married in posh castle in the middle of Ireland and the overnight rate is €230 !! Madness, but people will pay it and still give a gift. I think when you have close friends and family and are invited to a wedding you kind of have to just suck it up and take it that its going to be expensive. You do it for them, they'd do it for you. I was also at a wedding abroad earlier this year and I'm still paying for it. It can cripple you in some cases but I care about this person so I just say, well thats how it is. I also gave what I would have given if she had chosen to marry over here. And at the end of it, I got a nice wee holiday out of it.