Parents arguing/depression/worry

Fionne

My parents are doing my head in. Quick version: father has depression, both have given up smoking 10weeks ago, non-stop arguing and bickering since then. Father, who is on medication, has started going binge drinking (he's 58, you'd think he'd know better) at weekends and coming home and vomiting all over the house, which leads to rows and periods of them not even talking.

I'm very close to my mother, call to see her 3 or 4 times a week. Father has a history of abusive behaviour, though it hasn't been physical in over 2 decades. Today, they're gone off to seaside for a few days (headed out the door still bickering). I'm worried because father was in an almighty tare (seemed extremely angry) and he has swerved into oncoming traffic before with my mother in the car. I told her not to go but she did anyway. I am so afraid of something happening to her, or of him just spending the entire time drinking and making a fool of himself. I think I'm beyond giving a damn what happens him anymore.

I can't cope with all of the worry, I have siblings but don't want to bother them as they're all younger. My boyfriend keeps telling me I should just let my parents live their own lives, they are adults after all but it's not that easy. He thinks I'm probably worrying too much and imagining the worst, which might be true, but having witnessed so much in the past, I just can't turn off that wretched imagination of mine.

Should I just try to pretend they don't exist and let them sort out their own problems? Or do I have a responsibility to intervene?

I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like cracking up.

Beruthiel

fonril wrote: »

Or do I have a responsibility to intervene? .

No. You don't.
Getting involved in anybodies relationship is always a dodgy thing to do.
There is nothing you can do.

If you are close to your mother, feel free to voice your concern with the fact they always seem to argue. But leave it at that.