Premature ejaculation and circumcision

LegacyUser

hi,

I am at a lowpoint right now, i am now 20 but since i was 17 i have had sex around 12/13 times. Each time has lasted less than a minute and is nothing but a humiliating experience for me. I am due to be circumcised soon although i dont want it. I have tried edging and so many other techniques to prevent this but none have worked, my last option on the list is being circumcised to desensitize my penis. I know sex isn't everything but it is still an important piece of life. I havent had any sexual contact now in over a year now despite several opportunities as i'm honestly scared to, i consider myself quite good-looking and social as i have never had a problem meeting women but i have no sex life now. I just need to vent this out, has anyone been through this before or have some advice? College is starting up soon, i'm sharing with the same group of friends again..everynight at least one of my friend's "pulls" and i have to listen to banging and moaning/screaming. My friends slag me at times playfully that i must be a real gentle lover in bed as never has anyone in the house heard me when having 'sex' even through the paper walls. i'm ashamed and getting depressed over this, any help appreciated..

itsadeathtrap

hey look you are building this whole sex thing up too much.... to such a point now that it is taking over your life..... sex is great but its just sex, thinking about it to much bills you up to a point that when you get it, your that excited you blow your load within the first few minutes or worse still you fail to rise to the occasion. take your time enjoy foreplay relax in bed and the magic will flow.... trust me im a doctor..

Otis Driftwood

Hold on,you are getting circumcised because you want to last longer when having sex?
Is there any medical reason for this (the circumcision)?


To the issue at hand.

You have had sex 12/13 times over a 3 year period.
Thats 4 times a year.
Or once every 3 months.

The vast majority of men,and Im talking 90%+ have suffered from premature ejaculation when they first started having sex.Its totally normal.

Your ability to last longer comes with more experience.The more you have sex,the less sensitive your dangle will become,therefore you will last longer.

Practice makes perfect mate.;)

BTW I really hope you are not serious about the circumcision for this and that if you are getting it done that there are real reasons for having it.

Good luck finding a surgeon that would perform this operation for such a frivilous reason.

RealistSpy

Just because your circumcised doesn't mean you will last longer!

Sarah W

Unregistered wrote: »

hi,
I am due to be circumcised soon although i dont want it.

So why on earth are you doing it? Madness.

LegacyUser

Not trying to be condescending or anything, but count yourself lucky! You are good looking, and social, you can get it up and out. I have the problem of getting it up, but not out! You are at the luckier end of the scale, believe me. An extreme maybe, but there are definitely worse situations!

tbh

if you are just getting the circ cause you think it'll desensitize you, you're going to be very disappointed. For me, there was no change whatsoever.

Kipperhell

It won't desensitise your mind which is what the problem is. It sounds like you probably have to be in a relationship and get comfortable with sex. Not everybody can just go off a shag who they like and feel carefree.

TwoShedsJackson

tbh wrote: »

if you are just getting the circ cause you think it'll desensitize you, you're going to be very disappointed. For me, there was no change whatsoever.

That can vary though, I had to get it done and have lost a lot of sensitivity.

Having said that, the root cause of this is most likely in the mind so I don't think getting circumcised to try and last longer during sex, particulary when he says he doesn't want to get circumcised anyway, is a good idea at all.

LegacyUser

Tbh, when i read i am kinda jealous of the ammount you are getting getting round to my point I've only had sex with 2 girls and in both occasions was worried about it happening too soon. Which due to a fair ammount of foreplay it did. My solution, go again.

So although within 30 seconds of penetration I had ejaculated. After a minute or two I was quite happy to go again and the second time around lasted a satisfyingly long enough time, so this might be an option to try.

Also sounds cheesy but its true maybe try discharge the gun beforehand so you are not going fully loaded.

Finally, maybe try practice extending the time it takes when you're going solo, tensing the muscle that you use to control whizzing can extend time as can pulling down on your balls (gently of course).

Reflector

circumsision seems a bit extreme to do, have you tried every option???
I'm sure if you went to see a sex therapist he might have some idea, techniques.