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Feeling frustrated

  • 17-08-2009 10:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I’m a 27 year old guy and I’ve been single for the past number years. Since then, I’ve For the first two years I didn’t I didn’t really try to find anyone, but, in the past two years though, I’ve been more anxious to find somebody special. I can be a little shy approaching and chatting to women—I’m not really the aggressive type; but nonetheless, I have gone on a number of dates with women. The problem is that nothing really went beyond the first date—I never succeeded in getting a second date. On other occasions, I might meet some girls at social events or college etc—and after a while, if I’d like them, I may tell them so, but unfortunately the feelings were never reciprocal. Other times, I would meet girls who I really liked and have commonality, but I’d be disappointed to find out that they already have a boyfriend already.

    Overall, it has been really frustrating for me for the past two years or so—not one girl. Into the bargain, my three younger brothers have girlfriends and most of my friends either are in long term relationships or else fall in and out of relationships all the time. I don’t see myself been intrinsically different to other people. Also, I attend many social events and do interesting diverse interesting activities.

    As well, it’s really annoying when people ask me have I met any girls or if I got a g/f—I have to give them the tiring unchanging answer each time. It feels like if I’m trying or not trying, I don’t seem to meet girls.

    Cheers.


Comments

  • #2
    Katgurl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,145 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    well don't lose faith OP, there are plenty girls in same boat wanting to meet a guy like you, your only problem is you haven't met them!

    have you asked your friends to set you up? i don't mean in a 'blind date' environment but to have a think if they know any nice single girls you'd be well suited to? I often find this works particularly if you ask a couple of people outside your immediate circle of friends.


  • #3
    Novella
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    I think you are focusing too much attention on finding a relationship. Good things come to those who wait and all that jazz!

    Seriously OP, I think you should begin to concentrate on your happiness as a single guy and just get out there and do things you enjoy. There is nothing more attractive than a guy who is happy overall and no woman wants a man who feels he needs an other half to be happy. You need to love yourself before others can love you.

    I know that being single can be pretty frustrating but trust me, it has it's perks! Your friends who you say are all in long term relationships or jumping from girl to girl are probably jealous of you and your independence and freedom! Enjoy it while you have it and when you least expect it, you will meet someone.

    Chin up and best of luck :)


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