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Is it mine?

  • 17-08-2009 9:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hey, i had unprotected sex with a girl (one night stand) a few years back (stupid i know). it turns out she was sleeping with another guy a the same time. well she got pregnant and called me (when it happened) telling me this but assured me that she knew by the dates that it couldnt be mine. Im pretty sure i pulled out (i know) but that aint a sure thing.
    I havent heard anything since then and her sister is friends with my sister so itd not like i was uncontactable if it was mine. the thing thats getting me is that what if it was mine and how could she have been so sure about the dates mentioned abve?
    Ive seen pics of the kid and to be honest me and his mam hav similar features like brown eyes dark hair sallow skin etc so i dunno............
    I think its just the 'what if' thats getting to me......
    Thanks


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  • #2
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    If you want to know then ask the mother for a DNA test.If she refuses Id imagine you can get a court ordered one.


  • #3
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    Are you ready to be a father ? to pay for his/her upbringing ? to get emotionally involved ?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    ned the shed - i think that route is a bit full on.
    Vaio - Being honest id haveto say no to all 3 questions.


  • #5
    OS119
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,518 ✭✭✭OS119


    so keep your gob shut. whatever you do or say is going to upset an applecart that probably took some putting together. the mother knows who you are, if she wanted/needed your help she would of asked for it.

    if you think you are/could be the father you should start thinking like one, that means putting the child's welfare far above your own ego/idle curiosity.


  • #6
    JonathanAnon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,718 ✭✭✭✭JonathanAnon


    What you say is contradictory. You pulled out, yet you still think that the child is yours? Is the supposed "real" father still around or does he have any relationship with the child, paying support etc etc? Would she want you to have nothing to do with the child? Did she maybe just want to get pregnant to have a child herself (i.e. just wanted a sperm donor)?

    You could of course try to get a hair from the child's head and DNA test it with your own.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OS119 - Thanks. Thats a fair and rational perspective. Your completely correct in your response and its cleared my thoughts. Cheers


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