Should I bother Calling this Girl

LegacyUser

Just got out of a serious relationship recently, right, so I meet this beautiful Italian girl(27), who I've known for a few months. We started going out a few weeks ago and that was grand.

But! When I was up at her place the other night she was hammered drunk, which is unusual for her considering her drinking habits, everything was going grand throughout the night, we had a little house party then off out to town..

Then when everybody left and it's just the two of us back at her place, I notice a distinct drop in her attitude towards me-- she told me it was "that time of the month" and that she was tired, blah blah blah, so she said I could have the spare room.

Grand, I slept in the spare room, but I felt really confused.

"Is she fobbing me off because she is legitimately tired and on the SHEcycles? or what!"

or Is her interest in me waning, I wondered to myself.

So next day she has to work, some friend of hers are throwing a party, but she say's it's just a get together and it's not going be great.

I phone my buddy, who then invites me to the party, seeing as he knows the guy. I declined because I didn't want to be hovering around someone who may not be interested in me atm.


Well, the get together was a massive Spanish house party that went until 7am, so...

Her equally beautiful Italian friend invited me for lunch yesterday (she was going to be there too), but I can't help but get the feeling that I'd be wasting my time pursuing her any further.

Should I bother to text her at all? I mean she was really interested in me a one stage, but I don't know what if anything I should do. I don't want a serious relationship if that might be the impression i've given her!

XarcherX

i wouldn't worry too much about that time of the month incident, as you say she was hammered drunk and you do a lot of things out of character with drink in...
i would sent a text and start from there to be honest, see what kind of reaction you'll get.. it's only been a few weeks so maybe she's trying to suss you out too.. as you say you're just out of a serious relationship so she could be thinking about that and maybe you've given her the impression you don't want one...
if she is interested there will be signs, but you have to show your interest as well..

supremenovice

I dont think that sounds too promising my man.
Good idea there from xarcherx to send a text, or better yet, give her a call and assume that all is well in the relationship and ask her out on a casual date. If you catch her by surprise, you can gauge her tone of voice to see exactly how interested she is.
A hint of hesitation from her and Id leave it at that.
If shes interested and youve been on her mind, it will be an enthusiastic yes.

LegacyUser

Okay your not going to like it but one time i hooked up with a guy, worst case of beer goggles but didnt see him until we were meant to meet up again (had beena rranged by text) , god worst mistake of my life, anyway too embarrassed to get out of it so just told him i was on that time of month to exlain offishness and got drunk to hide my distaste and embarrassment. (I was like 18 before anyone calls me imature and that) wasnt nice of me but i didnt know how to say sorry please dont touch me.
Im sure this case isnt the same but just a girls perspective, and again, if she likes you she is going to call you and invite you around. Talk to her to make sure and then leave it, and hook up with her gorgeous friend!

J Peterman

These were the two bits that jumped out at me.

HolyMatlock wrote: »

Just got out of a serious relationship recently, right,

HolyMatlock wrote: »

I don't want a serious relationship if that might be the impression i've given her!

Sounds like you've answered your own question there mate. I'd text if you feel like it, but only to say "hi". In the meantime enjoy your going-to-Mediterranian-parties-all-night lifestyle, and go easy on yourself.