What does this mean?

LegacyUser

Hi guys I was wondering if ye could help me out here.

I've been seeing this girl a lot for this past 2/3 months. We've been out on 5/6 dates and we always meet up when we are out for the night. I really like this girl, she's sweet, funny, smart and is just the nicest girl you could ever meet, never has a bad word to say about anyone. Problem is I dont really know what she thinks of me. She seems a little guarded and doesnt really talk about how she feels about me. I asked about a month ago if she wanted to take things more seriously and she said she was happy with the way things were at the minute and didnt want anything serious. Since then we've still met up lots and she's met my family. As I said she is a little guarded so it came to my surprise when on Saturday night she started to open up to me. She was out for the night and was drunk and I was sitting in because of a football match the next day. She was texting me saying about how much she liked me and that she thought the world of me. She also said that she doesnt know what she wants and thats confused and she thought she was being a bitch to me.

Anyway met her out again last night. This time she wasnt drinking and I was. We hooked up again and she left me home. So i text her thanking for the lift and she replied with a good night message. My next message to her was "every time I meet up with you I end up liking you even more". Her reply was . A flipping smiley face!!! Now I havent a clue what is going through her head!! Any advice?? Thanks!

VaioCruiser

It looks to me like you are having a lovely time with a lovely girl.

But it also looks to me like you are being very anxious about progressing. Too anxious.

2/3 months is not a long time OP... and you say that after only 1 month you told her you wanted to get more serious ?

She seems to be into you, but is resisting your anxiety in as nice a way as possible.

I suggest you relax and enjoy life and enjoy your GF. Allow things to develop and don't feel you need to push things along.


All tge best.

LegacyUser

OP here. Thanks Vaio Cruiser. Yeah I reckon I should just allow things to develop. Had an interesting convo with one of her friends last night who warned me not to hurt her in anyway which sort of made me think that she had been talking about getting serious with me. But as you say taking it easy could be the best option.

legend365

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Her reply was . A flipping smiley face!!! Now I havent a clue what is going through her head!!

Haha whoa calm down!

All i can think of is adam sandler in anger managment.

Atleast she Did reply OP. Don't see why you think you havn't a clue what she thinks since she kinda poured it out onto the table a previous night.

getmoving

Relax and enjoy. Do fun stuff together and see how it works out.

prinz

A smiley face. Sometimes it's cute when they play the coy card. As long as it's once in a while and not a permanent feature. Do nothing and see if things progress naturally.

XarcherX

ha! that sounds like something i would do!!
bottom line is, she likes you but is being really guarded - she's probably doing the sensible thing and getting to know you in her own time because maybe she's figured out that jumping into things too fast doesn't really work all the time..
just give her a break and be patient!
good luck!

kmick

Sounds to me you are slipping into the friend zone and she is hedging her bets. Has she kissed you recently? You mention hooking up is that in an American sense or an Irish sense?

LegacyUser

Hi OP here.

Kmick yes i've kissed her recently. When I said we had hooked up I meant we were in each others company all night, we left holding hands and we kissed a number of times.

Prinz and XarcherX, I hate them smiley faces!! I never know what way to take them! Anyway she has asked me out on a date to a concert next weekend. So i'm just going to take things at her pace!

prinz

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Prinz and XarcherX, I hate them smiley faces!! I never know what way to take them! Anyway she has asked me out on a date to a concert next weekend. So i'm just going to take things at her pace!

It's a cop-out tbh. She put in a so she wouldn't have to actually put anything in words or explain herself. A tad childish. A girl I knows does the same thing. Puts the ball back into your court. She's just evading actually committing herself to anything, it's neither a yes, no, I agree etc. It's nothing really. Either that or she was generally genuinely smiley .

As an avoidance tactic it would get old with me pretty fast.

XarcherX

ok. well, smiley faces and text messages aside, it defo sounds to me like she's interested but you'll be able to judge more from spending more time with her in person...
hope it works out for ya, keep us posted!

LegacyUser

perhaps she is a virgin and just making sure she has found a man good enough to be with, before she gets any closer.