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  • 16-08-2009 8:14pm
    #1
    Chunkylover
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    So we finally took the big jump today and went and confirmed a hotel for our reception, its a good bit away from where we live (bout 130k) but we think it is perfect and it is coming in at a nice budget.

    We are not exactly the most religious of couples, even having a child out of wedlock, oh the shame, but we have picked a church aswell that is only about 10k from the hotel.

    Will there be any complications getting married in the parish as we are not from there and since I have moved have not once in the past 5 years been to mass in my current parish


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  • #2
    Nevyn
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    There may well be you need to go talk to the parish priest about it and you may well have to go and do the pre marriage course.
    You will need letters of freedom from your 'home' parish if you are both catholic that is that parishes you were baptised/confirmed in stating you are free to marry and have not married before.

    Some priests will not marry those who are from outside the parish, it is not like booking a venue and paying a band to turn up
    and the church could well be booked out for the day or if you get the church you may have to find a priest yourself.


  • #3
    PCPhoto
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,584 ✭✭✭PCPhoto


    best of my knowledge .... the church will ask you to turn up - so the priest can see your face for a number of weeks/months before the big day.

    they will also demand that you do a pre-marriage wedding course (its a requirement I believe...aka..money racket)

    and you must pay for the church/priest on the special day.

    Ps. Congrats on engagement and upcoming wedding.

    EDIT: Just re-read your post - church is approx 130km from your current parish.... they might want to talk to your current parish priest.


  • #4
    Chunkylover
    Closed Accounts Posts: 314 ✭✭Chunkylover


    thanks for the advice

    Gave the priest a call this morning, said no problem, just that he wont say the service so we will have to sweettalk one of our own parish priests into doing it, think its time to start going back to mass


  • #5
    seamus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    Once you have a priest who'll do it, he'll let you know what (if any) documentation he needs from you. Generally if it's a priest who's not from your own parish, he requires baptism and confirmation certs, as well a letter of freedom from every parish you've spent more than 6 months in. Yes, really.

    If you don't have the certs, the parish will reissue them.

    Then you bring all of this stuff to your *current* parish, who signs off on it and gives you a standard form for your celebrant priest to confirm that you're "allowed" to get married.

    If the priest who's marrying you is your current parish priest, he may just waive all of this stuff for you.


  • #6
    tbh
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    seamus wrote: »
    Once you have a priest who'll do it, he'll let you know what (if any) documentation he needs from you. Generally if it's a priest who's not from your own parish, he requires baptism and confirmation certs, as well a letter of freedom from every parish you've spent more than 6 months in. Yes, really.

    If you don't have the certs, the parish will reissue them.

    Then you bring all of this stuff to your *current* parish, who signs off on it and gives you a standard form for your celebrant priest to confirm that you're "allowed" to get married.

    If the priest who's marrying you is your current parish priest, he may just waive all of this stuff for you.

    I don't go to mass, and got married outside of my own parish. Rang the local PP, he was great. He just told me to say I always lived in the Parish I'm in now, so I wouldn't have to go down the letter of freedom route. Also, he talked to me and my wife for about an hour as he was filling in the forms and said that that would be suffice for the "Pre-marriage course" - we didn't have to do one. It took about two hours to get everything done, very hassle-free in my experience.


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  • #7
    seamus
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    tbh wrote: »
    I don't go to mass, and got married outside of my own parish. Rang the local PP, he was great. He just told me to say I always lived in the Parish I'm in now, so I wouldn't have to go down the letter of freedom route. Also, he talked to me and my wife for about an hour as he was filling in the forms and said that that would be suffice for the "Pre-marriage course" - we didn't have to do one. It took about two hours to get everything done, very hassle-free in my experience.
    Indeed, if you know your PP well, or he does a lot of weddings, or he's otherwise just a releaxed character, he may very well fast track the whole thing for you. It's mostly all a formality, they don't really have to tick a whole pile of boxes to send off to the Diocese or anything.


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