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Open Relationship- Advice?

  • 16-08-2009 8:02pm
    #1
    fabgooner
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭


    hey i've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we are in a happy relationship

    we are both going to college next year and the suggestion of having an open relationship while we are in college has cropped up

    i am unsure about having an open relationship because i would like to have a serious relationship with my gf in the future and am wondering if that would ever happen if we had an open relationship

    has anyone else split with their partner when they went to college?

    does/can an open relationship work?


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    It can but both parties have to have talked about and worked out firstly what they consider to be ok with in the terms of the 'open' relatoinship.

    Draw up a list of what you think you would be ok with each other doing and what would not be ok and clearly cheating as far as you are concerned and talk about them and explore what your feelings are and might be.

    There are couples for whom it is not and option, there are couples for whom it doens't work, there are couples who open the relationship for a while and close it again and the relationship is none the worse for it and there are those forum whom it is disasterous.

    I would suggest thinking long and hard about it, doing some research and having a series of discussions on it.


  • #3
    fabgooner
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 55 ✭✭fabgooner


    thanks. ya its defo not something that we are going to rush into

    its just such a tricky thing and you don't know if it could work till u've tried and then it could be too late. mite be one of these couples that it is disastrous for


  • #4
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    fabgooner wrote: »
    hey i've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we are in a happy relationship

    we are both going to college next year and the suggestion of having an open relationship while we are in college has cropped up

    i am unsure about having an open relationship because i would like to have a serious relationship with my gf in the future and am wondering if that would ever happen if we had an open relationship

    has anyone else split with their partner when they went to college?

    does/can an open relationship work?

    In my experience, this mind of thing just does NOT work for 99.9% of people. It's a nice thought ... when people are faced with a situation like this college thing ...but this is the REAL world OP.

    I would suggest breaking up for an agreed time - say 6 months - and then meeting up again to see what you both want to do.

    Love will wither and die if you leave it any longer imho.

    All the best.


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