The Teacher Enigma

LegacyUser

I'll keep this one short as posts in here tend to be extraordinarily long.

I've been having music lessons for a few months now and the teacher I have is the kinda girl I'd love to ask out. So I'm wondering does anyone have any opinions on the impact of me asking her out?

I'd prefer not to do anything that would end the classes as she's a great teacher and I'm making good progress and enjoying it loads!! In terms of ages we're boith mid-twenties, I'm older than her by about 3 years.

It's a gooey centre of a puzzle wrapped in a creamy chocale enigma surrounded by a crispy wafer conundrum!

VaioCruiser

HuddaHudda wrote: »

I'll keep this one short as posts in here tend to be extraordinarily long.

I've been having music lessons for a few months now and the teacher I have is the kinda girl I'd love to ask out. So I'm wondering does anyone have any opinions on the impact of me asking her out?

I'd prefer not to do anything that would end the classes as she's a great teacher and I'm making good progress and enjoying it loads!! In terms of ages we're boith mid-twenties, I'm older than her by about 3 years.

It's a gooey centre of a puzzle wrapped in a creamy chocale enigma surrounded by a crispy wafer conundrum!

LOL ...

It's a really difficult one to judge OP... she is the teacher right now and the signals she is giving you are that of a teacher with her student. Be careful not to misread them as being 'interested'.. So there is no way of assessing them for romantic potential.

If she is THAT important to you then maybe stay on good terms and wait until the end of the course ? Then ask her.

All the best

R.D. aka MR.D

Are you sure of her situation? Do you have chats at the lessons?

She could have a boyfriend or just out of a serious relationship.

i'd advise slowly trying to chat to her about everyday things and build up a friendship outside the teacher/student relationship you have now.

If you ask her out and she says no it could definitly affect the lessons, she might not be willing to give as much of herself incase you interpret it as her trying to get close. And the awkwardness in general might cause a bad atmosphere.

Once you know her better you'll be better able to judge her reaction.

AARRRGH

Has she given you any signals she is interested in you?

LegacyUser

I'm pretty sure she's single as she mentioned an ex at one point. We usually have a few chats about anything &everything during the lessons which makes them good craic. I've had no signals of interest from her though.

i'd advise slowly trying to chat to her about everyday things and build up a friendship outside the teacher/student relationship you have now.

I think that's the best idea. I'm there to learn, not to chat her up. I don't know her all that well yet, and the music is the priority so if something happens down the line all well and good but for now focus on what I'm actually taking the lessons for!

VaioCruiser

HuddaHudda wrote: »

I'm pretty sure she's single as she mentioned an ex at one point. We usually have a few chats about anything &everything during the lessons which makes them good craic. I've had no signals of interest from her though.



I think that's the best idea. I'm there to learn, not to chat her up. I don't know her all that well yet, and the music is the priority so if something happens down the line all well and good but for now focus on what I'm actually taking the lessons for!

Absolutely right. Also for now there is no "outside the teacher student relationship" because it encompasses all contact you have with her while you are her student.

Hang in there and wait until it is finished.

All the best.

AARRRGH

If you can find something she's interested in, e.g. a particular type of music, you can arrange it so you and your friends are going to a gig for that type of music, mention it to her, and if she shows interest, suggest she comes out with you.

You'll find out that night (or earlier if she rejects the invitation) if she's interested in you or not.