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No feelings anymore for alcoholic parents

  • 16-08-2009 1:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    both my parents drink...mum used too all the day but was a closet alcoholic as we call them in ireland...dad now has started mainly binge drinking at night and falling over...i dont live at home but am single with no kids in my 40's...one younger sibling who lives with them..others all married wit kids...the stories frm my sibling at home are horrendous...i tell her to leave bt she wont...being honest i dont feel anything for them anymre....if they ask for my help and i will but cant cope with the sadness of the disease(puking, weting pants, falling over and cutting themselvs)

    is this normal? i cried when i was younger about them and so woried(as any other teenage kid would) but now no more...i get on with my life but am made to feel by silbling and parents as bing selfish..

    wt do yu think?


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  • #2
    LadyJ
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,122 ✭✭✭LadyJ


    You're not selfish. I can relate to your situation. It is hard to feel anything for people who act like that. I don't really know what to say apart from that. Over time alcoholics behaviour can just wear away any loving feelings you once had even if you do still care somewhere deep down.


  • #3
    hungryhippo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 78 ✭✭hungryhippo


    They have chosen the bottle, let them deal with the consequences. Move on and live your own life, you only get the one and its too short to be pulled back by that kind of sh1te.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm not going to go into the specifics of my situation with alcoholics but i found Al-Anon really helpful.
    there is meetings all over the country.
    it's good to listen and most importantly identify with what others have been through.
    it helps believe or not


  • #5
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    No, you're not selfish and don't worry about being indifferent to their self-imposed 'plight'

    They brought it on themselves.

    The indifference you have is the minds way of protecting you from the bull$hit they have brought down on you over the years.

    Probably be a good idea for the sibling still at home to go to Al-Anon.


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