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No orgasm when there should be AWFUL :(

  • 16-08-2009 12:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys,
    Im a 22 year old man, and still a virgin. I have just recently got into a relationship with a wonderful girl who is also 22. Things are going great, but theres just one problem. When my girlfriend 'goes down' on me, I cant seem to orgasm. It feels great , but I just cant. I dont know why, and she is getting self-conscious. I love this girl, and she loves me but I just hope I can 'let go' because I could see some friction coming from this. Please dont say 'thats a good problem' etc, because it isnt.Its awful. I'd much rather have PE than this.

    Maybe I could stop the 'self pleasure' for a while because I do it quite often (once/twice a day)?
    Do most guys 'release' when receiving oral sex?

    Thanks guys.


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  • #2
    Giblet
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,998 ✭✭✭✭Giblet


    Stop for two weeks and she won't be able to breathe on it without you *ahem* releasing.


  • #3
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Ive had alot of blowjobs down the years,most of them great but have never ejaculated from receiving one.Some people can,some cant.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Hi guys,
    Im a 22 year old man, and still a virgin. I have just recently got into a relationship with a wonderful girl who is also 22. Things are going great, but theres just one problem. When my girlfriend 'goes down' on me, I cant seem to orgasm. It feels great , but I just cant. I dont know why, and she is getting self-conscious. I love this girl, and she loves me but I just hope I can 'let go' because I could see some friction coming from this. Please dont say 'thats a good problem' etc, because it isnt.Its awful. I'd much rather have PE than this.

    Maybe I could stop the 'self pleasure' for a while because I do it quite often (once/twice a day)?
    Do most guys 'release' when receiving oral sex?

    Thanks guys.

    Your thinking about your performance too much, talk to the girl explain how stressed you are about it. but remember that she is probably stressed aswel. You just have to calm down and think of her.


  • #5
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    I (almost) never come from oral. You can always 'play around it' so to speak.

    It's sad that there's still the sexist assumption around that all guys tick the same and just need some sucking and there they go. No. Just like women, we tick differently and enjoy different things. Explore yourself and your gf together and tell her what else you like. Relax, and she'll relax too.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here. Thanks guys, your comments are really appreciated. I might take the 'two weeks off' tip. Again, thanks guys


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  • #7
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Do most guys 'release' when receiving oral sex?.

    No.


  • #8
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Definitely don't worry OP, I've been with more than one guy who couldn't orgasm from oral sex alone... was a bit of a blow to the ego, but I got over it! :P It's not unusual at all :)


  • #9
    netwhizkid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,558 ✭✭✭netwhizkid


    Not everyone can do it as has been said, take a break as has been said and try not to think about it, also the postion tried can be a major factor. Try maintain eye contact with your partner and it is one of the best experiences ever.


  • #10
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey OP

    you'd be very surprised how many 'sex' stereoytpes are exageratted and built up in your own head... (excuse the pun...) Just enjoy the blow job man and don't worry about blowing your load...I very rarely 'release' from oral sex and would have it most days to be honest. I get her to finish the job off in other ways.... Most girls ive been with don't appreciate you 'delivering the payload' in their mouth anyhow... Enjoy your sex life buddy, don't stress about it.....!!!


  • #11
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP,

    Don't worry about it. As all the others say, some guys just don't orgasm from blowjobs. I've been with a few women and there has ever only been one that has made me cum during one.

    Doesn't matter if you ejaculate or not, just enjoy the experience of receiving one!


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  • #12
    Trixielicious
    Closed Accounts Posts: 72 ✭✭Trixielicious


    It's perfectly normal not to release this way, believe me some guys could learn not to!!!From a girls point of view it can be bit of an insult to the ego when there's no "release" but just explain to your girlfriend that you love what she does but prefer "releasing" when doing other things! If she really wants to try to make you explode this way tell her always give the balls plenty of attention during the blowjob, usually works a treat!!!!!


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