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Romance gone

  • 15-08-2009 5:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Common problem, but here goes. Today is our 2 yr anniversary. We’re not doing presents cause we’re saving for a house so we (I) decided to go out for dinner. I got him a little gift that he needed during the week but that was it. So today my real gift was to let him watch football all day without complaining(hard for me to do!). Then I went to get ready & he said he was popping out, I was hopeful this was for flowers. So I got ready, put in an extra effort with hair & makeup and wore my nice new top. He came home, turns out he trip was for beer. No comment on how I look, now he’s on the couch with a beer watching more sport. How do relationships turn into this and how do I get the romance back?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    My advice would be that most men are romantic. I think that women almost expect it at a certain time and in a certain way. O.K. he should have complemented you on how you looked and all that but I'm sure there are ways that he shows he loves you. I think if you hone in on these you'll grow to like it even more because you know it's a genuine romance and not a pretense that men put on in the beginnings of a relationship.


  • #3
    pookie82
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    Have you actually asked him to take some time out for a bit of romance? Dressing up while he has popped out and secretly hoping it's for flowers when in fact it's for beer is a lost cause. He's not going to magically read your mind. Talk to him. I know in the movies spontaneity and romance go hand in hand but in real life, you have to give it a little push sometimes. I'm sure he's sitting on the couch now blissfully unaware that he has really disappointed you.


  • #4
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Yeah, men and women's brains are totally different.

    You need to talk to him (nicely!) about how little gestures of affection, even though they probably mean nothing to him, mean a lot to you...


  • #5
    merlie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 673 ✭✭✭merlie


    You gave him an inch, he took a mile!

    You could have gone for a nice walk in the park or had a nice romantic picnic or you could cook a candlelight dinner for you both. Small things like that can mean a lot, free or inexpensive, it is the thought that counts.

    But things like sitting in front of the tv watching football on your anniversary isn't the way to go. It is nice of you to have let him do that, but you left yourself open to feeling let down, as you did. You do need to talk with him and get the romance back in your relationship.

    Good luck

    Merle


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