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Feel intimidated by People

  • 13-08-2009 10:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I feel intimidated by people. I think the reason is because i was bullied when i was younger and my family spoiled me. How can i change? I know it sounds like it but I'm no teenager either.


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Well, try to generate thoughts in yuor head that you are an important person and ave just as much right to be here as anyone else. That's partly how I overcame my social anxiety problem.

    Kevin


  • #3
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    Why be intimidated, most people around are self conscience about themselves. People who get bullied normally grow up to be intimidators, so thankfully you're not a jerk.

    Perhaps see a gp, maybe you might take some anxiety pills or something


  • #4
    admiralofthefleet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,515 ✭✭✭✭admiralofthefleet


    maybe try an assertiveness course


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    hi

    i saw a counsellor for a few months and she helped me alot ( i have social anxiety and confidence issues) - im alot more confident now :) basically you are just as good as everyone else - why should you be any different? We are all JUST people at the end of the day - all with our own insecurites and worries etc. Im not as good as my counsellor :( maybe you should check out some - they are well worth the money.


  • #6
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    I feel intimidated by people. I think the reason is because i was bullied when i was younger and my family spoiled me. How can i change? I know it sounds like it but I'm no teenager either.

    I think that rather than assertiveness courses you need to look at confidence building activities and actions.

    Go see a counsellor or a therapist in this area and see what they can recommend. There could be evening courses, outdoor activity courses or find a quality NLP practitioner (Neurolinguistic Programming) I have some experience of this and it is very successful.

    Don't waste time and allow it to limit your life. There is no shame in getting advice and taking action to improve your life.

    All the best.


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  • #7
    d'Oracle
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,025 ✭✭✭d'Oracle


    kjl wrote: »
    Why be intimidated, most people around are self conscience about themselves. People who get bullied normally grow up to be intimidators, so thankfully you're not a jerk.

    Sorry but that is appalling.
    Massive generalisation and really rude. I'm not even sure its helpful.

    OP.
    If this is really a problem, you might see a psycotherapist or counsellor.
    There are people who specialise with people of low Esteem, interaction issues and people who were bullied.

    http://www.irish-counselling.ie/index.php/members-search

    There should be someone near you.
    Good luck.


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