Want to improve my social life.

LegacyUser

As the title says.

I always seem to move on in life and lose touch with friends i have, not that i dont get on well with people or anything. It's just that since moving to the city, i never go home anymore, and hardly go out. Everyone i knew from schol or college have all moved on to different stuff too.

I get on pretty well with people at work, and we do occasionally go for a few drinks or hang out a bit. But they all have their own socially-busy lives too, and i dont want to be over dependent with them.

Mostly though, my evenings and weekends are spent not doing anything. I want to get my life back on track, but i don't know where to begin.

Any ideas?

LegacyUser

Hi Op,
I'm more or less in the same position as yourself. I'm living on the West coast (most of my friends are in Dublin or back home in the Midlands. I'm at an ages where it's hard to make new real friends. Most people I work with are nice, but they're either married, attached, or have their own buddies outside work. Socialising through work only happens once a month or less.
So, what have I done... nothing for a good while, then this summer I joined a watersports club, love it so far, and it's early days, but maybe in time I'll make friends proper with some of these people. I might also get involved in an evening class when the Winter hits.
MAybe you could have a look around and see if there's anything that interests you. I think you, like me, need to be proactive. I'm quite a reserved person,, but once someone gets to know me I'm lively and fun (I like to think). So in my case I think I might need to be the person who takes the initiative and make friendships happen. Over the years, I've always been a background person, never the leader of the pack so to speak. Maybe by pushing myself a bit I could be that person that people notice and want to be around, and this isn't in a cocky kind of way. Are you in any way similar??
Maybe you could push yourself out there a bit more, joins clubs or whatever, and at work be the person who suggests events, dinner parties or whatver.
Good luck

LegacyUser

Op here. I thought about evening classes, but i'm not sure where to begin, or what is offered. I'd like to meet people my own age, but i don't know where in Dublin there are evening classes offered.

RossFixxxed

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Op here. I thought about evening classes, but i'm not sure where to begin, or what is offered. I'd like to meet people my own age, but i don't know where in Dublin there are evening classes offered.

Just google around, find something you might like. Martial Arts are good for meeting people etc. I'm gonna do a guitar class soon myself, cos I love guitar, and cos you get to meet people who have a common interest! Just see what you like!