Work problems

LegacyUser

I work full time for a neighbour as a carer to their child with special needs. My mam works part time for the same family as a housekeeper.

My mam is giving me a seroius amount of hassle at work, and I don't know what to do about it. Tried talking to my mam before but that hasn't helped.

My mam hates her work (has told me that she does recently too), she can't cope with the workload that she has, can't organise her work, and very rarely finishes on time. She used to give out to me months ago (before the xmas) to clean but not anymore to such a degree. However she goes around in a proper mood creating a lot of tension. The child senses that too.

Also, my mam isn't happy working around others. Theres always somebody coming and going to the house, like a decorator, nurse or other professionals to work with the child. If I know what the seducule is and If i know whos to arrive I do tell her in advance and she usually changes her hours around. But if I don't know and somebody comes unexpectly - the second they are gone - she gives out to me shouting did I know they were coming. I told my mam on Tuesday what the seducule was for Wednesday, but then yesterday morning the parents had different plans and they were all up in the air. They eventually left. And mam came and started roaring at me because the parents had different plans for the day. Her ramblings made no sense what so ever. And I was at fault because I was there to mind the child?

Mam is sersiously not happy working there. I get a feeling she resents me for having more responsibilities. Also, I could be wrong but I think she thinks that I'm in her way. I'm there to mind the child. What am I supposed to do? Stay in one corner of the house with the child for 4 hours, or take the child out on a 4 hour walk in the rain, or dump the child in front of the tv for 4 hours and not play with her.

If I wasn't employed there, one of the parents would probably have to stay at home. or they'd have a nurse. Mam wouldn't go about shouting at a nurse or anyone else for that matter. Shes not shouting at the parents for creating such a mess in the first place.

I'm getting a load of abuse on a weekly basis from my mam, either at work or at home (about work). Don't know what to do. Just want a peaceful day at work.

Aside from all of this I actually love what I do. The child is great and I loving helping her.

Xiney

Look, you said it yourself: your mother wouldn't do this to a nurse or someone who wasn't you.

So you tell her that if she doesn't cop herself on and act professionally at work, you're going to talk to your boss.

And then you follow through. Tell your boss that your mother as a coworker isn't working out, and if they can't come to a solution you're leaving.