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Ex On A Pedestal

  • 12-08-2009 10:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm just wondering if what I'm going through is normal after a breakup so need advice pls.

    Ex broke up with me 3 months ago, theres been no contact for 2 months and I'm starting to feel semi normal some of the time but the rest of the time I still think we had this amazing connection and in time we might get together again. I'm still totally mad about this fella and can only think of the good times (there weren't many bad times, some rows but nothing major. don't think he wanted the 'burden' of the relationship cos something else was going not but not another person).

    I'm just wondering post breakup, does everyone feel that the ex was this amazing being and my head is just full of nonsense? I feel like I'm crazy in love with him and it hurts like a bitch tbh. I miss him so much. Hes tried to contact me a couple of times but i've ignored it as I know he only wants to be 'friends'.


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  • #2
    kev_s88
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭kev_s88


    well i know exactly how you feel...im going through the exact same thing at the moment...broke up in the middle of June, havnt seen her since cause shes been away all summer, and yes she is on a huge pedestal...

    as you said you had an amazing connection...some people feel closer in relationships then others...i know i had a great connection with my ex and i really do think that makes it harder to move past.it wouldnt be too bad if it was a mutual feeling that things werent meant to be...

    in the end i guess you just have to decide what is going to be best for you...if you become friends again (which i hope for), you can at least have the possibility of getting back the old connection, even if its through friendship... you just have to do what you feel is right though!


  • #3
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    I've been through it before and it's a complete bitch of an experience. One of the worst actually. Nothing but time will fix it but there are a few things you can do to speed it along.

    1. Keep doing what you are doing and ignore all contact. Tell him to stop trying as well because you are the one dumped here so you the decision is yours.

    2. Try to remember their bad points as best you can. Sounds a little petty i know, but its useful as it helps put things in perspective and you realise they aren't prefect.

    3. Don't rush into a new relationship. That ****ed me up completely before and i would be strongly advising everyone to avoid that.

    4. Come back here and post to vent some anger :)

    Good luck! hope things pick up soon.


  • #4
    Lucyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 357 ✭✭Lucyx


    Hi OP

    It really is just nonsense that has you thinking this guy is so great and only time will make this image go away. No contact is vital for you to get over this and in time you will. Hang in there :)


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