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Living apart but still dating?

  • 12-08-2009 6:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Has anyone ever moved out again after living with their partner for a while, but continued dating?

    I moved in with my partner when I was quite young, and 3 years later I feel like I've missed out on learning to be independent and do things for myself. We argue a lot about housework, I know I'm being lazy but can't seem to change and resent being asked to do things even though I know I'm being unfair by not doing them. I wish I had my own space and could just look after my own housework in my own way.

    I also find myself getting frustrated at how much time we spend together and long to go back to the days when we lived apart, saw each other a couple of times a week and I couldn't wait to see him. As it stands I feel all the love is being drained out of me, crushed by how trapped and frustrated I feel. I finding myself tuning him out sometimes when he's talking and wishing I had more evenings to myself.

    I do like him deep down, and I know he loves me but I'm so afraid to suggest this to him. The alternative of staying living together while unhappy is probably worse in the long term but it's so hard. Does anyone have any advice or experience?


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  • #2
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    I do like him deep down
    You are with him 3 years and you like him? I think its time to move on. You're not happy which in turn will make him unhappy. Go be single and enjoy yourself and let him find someone who wants to share their life with him.

    Oh and yes i have gone from living with someone back to dating them and it didnt work out. Cant see how it would unless you both wanted it 100%.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I can see how that reads.

    I suppose I used the word like because I think I could feel genuine love for him again in the right circumstances but right now it's too hard to know how I feel with all this other stuff going on.

    I guess as you say it has to be a mutual decision so it may be out of my hands in the end


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