Dealing with Housemates

jetrased

Wondering if anyone has a bit of advice, I recently moved to the U.K and moved in with a few lads from Ireland. None of us knew each other before moving in. Initially it was good crack, everyone similar enough and lads are good laugh to go out with.

The problem is that, 2 of the lads work weird hours (changed jobs to different type of shifts). I get up at 7.00am for work but lads usually don't work till mid-day. So now the lads come home and decide to have impromptu Pro Evo tournaments (sometimes with a few other people from their work) or generally watch TV till the early morning.

Sounds now like i am a granny, but my room is right above the TV and the noise wakes me up usually at least 3 - 4 nights a week. I've said it in a joking way to the lads but I don't want to tell them they can't watch TV or play PS3 after work. It is starting to get annoying pretty fast, I like the house and location so I don't want to leave - I just don't know how to approach it.

anyone dealt with something like this? Interested to know what ye did?

wudangclan

earplugs?

Svalbard

Any way you could get up a bit earlier and make loads of noise so they know how it feels to be kept awake?

No but seriously, while its not always easy to stand up for yourself and its not always desirable to rock the boat in a house-share situation you do need to tell them what's bothering you. It's possible they just don't realise they are keeping you awake.

Just keep it friendly and non-confrontational, but make sure you get your point across clearly. If that doesn't work, or worse - they get the hump - then moving elsewhere may be the solution.

On a side note, I'm not entirely sure why you moved to the UK and then moved in with a load of paddies who are all 'similar enough'. Sounds dreadfully dull and limiting.

LegacyUser

Can you switch bedrooms with one of the other people so that you're not over the TV room? I'm sure if you explained to them why, they would have no problem. I'm a light sleeper myself & I know what this is like!

Overheal

Do they have to use it in the living room? Could you do a room swap?

Thats what I'd reccomend. Just as its unfair to you to put up with that, its unfair to make them tiptoe during their active free time. ITs a comprimise issue, not a ballbusting one.

puglover

Overheal wrote: »

Do they have to use it in the living room? Could you do a room swap?

Thats what I'd reccomend. Just as its unfair to you to put up with that, its unfair to make them tiptoe during their active free time. ITs a comprimise issue, not a ballbusting one.

+1 try and come to a compromise like a room swap. sometimes when sharing you just have to put up because no one is really in the wrong.

earplugs are a good idea too

Oh The Humanity

Deffo suggest a room swap. Dont be afraid to be direct, lads can take it.

I bet anything they don't mean to annoy you and are misreading the hints/jokes you are giving.

You have to be more direct, don't be worrying about being seen as a Granny, they will respect you more if you are clear.

Everyone is entitled to a decent nights kip !!!

LegacyUser

How inconsiderate are your housemates being! ?

Awfully awfully so. I empathize and know what this feels like ,
its so hard to zone out after a hard days work where your totally
wound up , and need at least an hour or two to relax into sleep ...
then the slightest noise wakes you up , and bam your awake for half
the night.

Ask them nicely to keep quiet between 10pm and 7 am.
2200 and 0700 I think its the law anyway !

Mrs Shankly

Unregistered wrote: »

How inconsiderate are your housemates being! ?

Awfully awfully so. I empathize and know what this feels like ,
its so hard to zone out after a hard days work where your totally
wound up , and need at least an hour or two to relax into sleep ...
then the slightest noise wakes you up , and bam your awake for half
the night.

Ask them nicely to keep quiet between 10pm and 7 am.
2200 and 0700 I think its the law anyway !

Hi,

I never heard of any such law about not being able to watch TV between 10pm and 7am in rented accomodation? Interesting!

In any case, I think its unfair to say that the guys are being "inconsiderate", they're not blaring death metal or having house parties to all hours- they might not even be aware that their TV/ PS activities are disturbing- seriously! OP, some of the advice you have been given, especially around speaking to them for a compromise is the best thing.

At the end of the day, you all have to live together, so its best to be able to address any such issues without letting them fester.

Best of Luck!

Firetrap

I think a room swap would be the best solution, especially if the person you swap rooms with is one of the gaming lads. I know where you're coming from - it's amazing how much noise comes up through a floor.

If they're decent at all, swapping rooms shouldn't be a big problem. It would be great for them too - they can continue to play without having to be quiet for the person who's up over them.

Earplugs would be a last resort really.

useful_contacts

wudangclan wrote: »

earplugs?

i agree- as annoying as it sounds (if you can fall asleep to it) listen to music with earphones- its actually soothing... and you wont hear anything

petes

Third earplugs. They aren't really being inconsiderate. Their hours mean that their social time is different to yours. You can't expect them to come home from a shift and be quiet as a mouse because you are asleep.

I can see if from both points of view. As you said in your OP they are sound enough. Talk to them and not in a joking pass remark.

killeoin

Firetrap wrote: »

I think a room swap would be the best solution, especially if the person you swap rooms with is one of the gaming lads. I know where you're coming from - it's amazing how much noise comes up through a floor.

If they're decent at all, swapping rooms shouldn't be a big problem. It would be great for them too - they can continue to play without having to be quiet for the person who's up over them.

Earplugs would be a last resort really.

I really think a room swap would be a great idea...As well it shows your not being a nag and want to compromise?

Lollipops23

Insurgent wrote: »

Third earplugs. They aren't really being inconsiderate. Their hours mean that their social time is different to yours. You can't expect them to come home from a shift and be quiet as a mouse because you are asleep.

bullpoop. my OH was until recently working nightshifts,drove me maaaaad.working unsociable hrs comes with major downsides; one of which is respecting that other people need to sleep at night.

OP, suggest the room swap. I think,if it's possible, it would be the best soloution, Or you could ask them to keep the volume to a more reasonable level?

It's not an unreasonable thing to be annoyed about; they can't expect you to be ok with mini parties on weekday nights when you've work the next day.