For the Ladies - spontaneity

legend365

A good or bad thing when your trying to win over a girl?

Long story short im trying to win over a girl i work with. We went out before but it kind of fizzled out because i moved away for college. We get on great and are always smiling when we see eachother(takes alot to make me smile).

I've asked her out before and she kind of ignored the question rather than give me an answer. So i just took it as a no. I summed up the courage to ask her the other day why she wouldn't let me take her out. She said it was because of how it ended last time.....a nice long awkward silence straight after as my mind went completely blank, 2 of us just starring at eachother with big dopey smiles.

I take it she must like the attention or somthing because she hasn't told me to shove off or get the boat.

So im thinking of just walking into work, grabbing her, and asking ''would i be too cheeky in kissing you right her, right now''?

Yay or nay?

Seraphina

definitely not in work, bad idea. will put her on the spot in an awkward and uncomfortable setting. its also very unprofessional.

Trixielicious

Maybe you think things just fizzled out last time but by the sounds of things she was hurt at the end of it and she might be protecting herself!

Dublin_Gunner

Well, if you still think she has feelings for you (as you obviously do or her) definitely ask her - but ensure you get an answer this time, be it yes or no.

However, grabbing her in work, asking her in front of everyone etc etc while it might seem spontaneous and romantic, I fear will more than likely end with embarrassment for both of you, and you feeling particularly twat-like afterwards.

If it was on the walk home / to the bus / in the car park - maybe, but you've gotta be certain that she'll want you to jump on her, or its gonna end in tears for you.

These movie moments are fantastic when they work - but quite possibly the worst thing when they don't!

seamus

Dublin_Gunner wrote: »

However, grabbing her in work, asking her in front of everyone etc etc while it might seem spontaneous and romantic, I fear will more than likely end with embarrassment for both of you, and you feeling particularly twat like afterwards.

And in the worst case scenario will end up with the OP out on the street jobless for sexual harrassment in the workplace.

Her comment about "how it ended last time" doesn't bode well unless you can give more information.

So either she thinks, "You're a nice guy, but it didn't work last time because I'm just not that into you" or "You hurt me last time, I don't trust you, but I have to deal with you because you're a colleague".

Either way, I think you're onto a loser here and if you do "get her", it'll fizzle out again.

legend365

Nice to see this situation from different perspectives.

Yea maybe in work is just that bit too risky than romantic.

@Dublin_Gunner - yea i dont mind getting completely shot down. That way i know exactly where i stand with her.

@seamus - She seemed very into it last time. Always wanting to see me and do stuff together. We've been friends since then and we always get on well together.

Just cant figure her out. Whether she is playing pretty hard to get/likes the attention/doesn't want to hurt me or would rather just stay single.

If you were actually considering going up to her in work and saying

''would i be too cheeky in kissing you right here, right now'?"

Wouldn't you consider going up to her in work and saying

"Seriously though, can we give it another shot? Yes or no"

Dublin141

Not work - that would be horrible imo.

But...spontaneity can be a good thing. If you really want to know how she feels (and if she's being vague) then maybe just going for it (not in front of lots of people) is the way to go. She might not be ready for that yet - maybe she is still unsure as to how she feels or she could just be protecting herself. It's up to you to judge the situation based on maybe another honest chat and then figure out which direction to go in.

Good luck whatever you do.

legend365

Might just try that jackie.


...times runnin out though she's goin away in 4 days.


Wheres richard gere when ye need him!

legend365

K....i decided to say nothing.

Sent her a text, got no reply. In work yesterday with her. Same old chatting and giggling but said nothing to me regarding us or the text i sent her.

Bah looks like im beating a dead horse here. I want to just say fcuk it and give up chasing her but for some reason i cant.

Steamer

What did you say in the text?