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First Argument

  • 11-08-2009 11:33am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just had my first argument with my bf of 6 months. I don't think either of us was really to blame but I'm very sad.

    I'm not going to see him for a few days because I am up the country with work until the end of the week. I just want to see him and make sure everything is ok


Comments

  • #2
    Trixielicious
    Closed Accounts Posts: 72 ✭✭Trixielicious


    Ring him! Never walk away from an argument without sorting it out. It will put your mind at rest and probably his also!!!! Neither of you have to back down as you said neither of you were in the wrong so just agree to disagree and let it go!!


  • #3
    legend365
    Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭legend365


    Everyone fights at some time in thier relationship.

    If you never fought you'd drive eachother insane always agreeing together.


  • #4
    romah
    Closed Accounts Posts: 150 ✭✭romah


    Now that the first arguement is over with you can look forward to the second and third

    Every relationship busts up every so often ..dont worry just clear the air and start over


  • #5
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Trixielicious wrote: »
    Ring him! Never walk away from an argument without sorting it out. It will put your mind at rest and probably his also!!!! Neither of you have to back down as you said neither of you were in the wrong so just agree to disagree and let it go!!

    +1
    Never let the sun set on an argument. Next day your memories are clouded by sleep / dreams and you run the risk of making things worse.
    Advice my dad gave me when I was getting married was "never go to bed on an argument"...
    This one piece of advice has worked great for me - except when I ignored it as I was too annoyed. Then it came back to bite me.

    The real test for you both here is how you deal with your disagreement. It might be your first but it won't be your last.


  • #6
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    Taltos wrote: »
    The real test for you both here is how you deal with your disagreement. It might be your first but it won't be your last.
    Just highlighting this again for truth.

    Disagreements are natural in any relationship, be it with friends, relations, or OHs. They are the mark of communication happening and as such a good thing, in principle. So as long as everybody involved stays civil and fair to each other and maintains the mutual respect, there's absolutely nothing to fear, in fact, they're chances to get to know the other better and have great make-up sex :D

    Now obviously if you can never stop arguing, break the civility, or fight over core values, then that's not good. But it seems this wasn't one of such cases. Chin up, make up, and enjoy ;)


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